1 00:00:21,090 --> 00:00:23,057 [Dr. Mahinder Watsa] Let's see what this one says. 2 00:00:23,092 --> 00:00:25,749 [reading] 3 00:00:36,829 --> 00:00:40,074 Two condoms are more unsafe than one. 4 00:00:41,627 --> 00:00:43,215 They tend to break with the friction. 5 00:00:43,250 --> 00:00:46,667 So one condom used properly is safer. 6 00:01:00,957 --> 00:01:03,856 They have a column, like, Ask the Sex Expert. 7 00:01:05,479 --> 00:01:07,653 The page number just bounced into my head. 8 00:01:07,688 --> 00:01:10,104 I think it's somewhere between 32 or 34. 9 00:01:10,139 --> 00:01:12,279 Sex Expert, page 34, right? 10 00:01:12,313 --> 00:01:13,866 Yeah, everyone knows about it. 11 00:01:15,144 --> 00:01:17,146 [Dr. Watsa] I'm a 28-year-old man. 12 00:01:17,180 --> 00:01:20,287 I've never indulged in sex and I am a virgin. 13 00:01:20,321 --> 00:01:22,668 While bathing I pull down my foreskin and wash the area 14 00:01:22,703 --> 00:01:25,430 with Dettol and soap water daily. 15 00:01:25,464 --> 00:01:27,501 Well done, you're looking after your hygiene. 16 00:01:27,535 --> 00:01:30,159 Presumably, you also do the same with the ears. 17 00:01:30,193 --> 00:01:32,851 Why not try masturbation when you're sexually aroused? 18 00:01:32,885 --> 00:01:34,853 It is harmless and will give you some idea 19 00:01:34,887 --> 00:01:37,614 when you start sexual intercourse. 20 00:01:37,649 --> 00:01:40,030 [woman] What do you guys know about this doctor who writes the column? 21 00:01:40,065 --> 00:01:41,342 Do you know anything about him? 22 00:01:41,377 --> 00:01:44,276 He's a gynecologist who writes that column. 23 00:01:44,311 --> 00:01:45,795 Mahinder Watsa. That's it. 24 00:01:45,829 --> 00:01:49,074 -He could be 30, 40. -I believe he's 40 plus. 25 00:01:51,041 --> 00:01:53,527 40 plus. Tall. With mustache and everything. 26 00:01:53,561 --> 00:01:55,287 Wears specs. 27 00:01:55,322 --> 00:01:57,289 Beautiful wife. 28 00:01:57,324 --> 00:01:58,359 Keeps her happy. 29 00:01:58,394 --> 00:01:59,498 [all laughing] 30 00:02:03,330 --> 00:02:05,159 I can't see properly, you know. 31 00:02:07,023 --> 00:02:08,714 I'm a 35 year old man. 32 00:02:08,749 --> 00:02:11,061 I'm a chain-smoker and don't get a good erection. 33 00:02:11,096 --> 00:02:14,686 My wife prefers to insert a ripe banana in her vagina 34 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:16,066 instead of my penis. 35 00:02:16,101 --> 00:02:18,897 She says I cannot satisfy her. I am depressed. 36 00:02:20,692 --> 00:02:23,004 She does not like your bad breath. 37 00:02:23,039 --> 00:02:24,661 Stop smoking. 38 00:02:24,696 --> 00:02:27,043 The nicotine may have also affected your erection. 39 00:02:28,562 --> 00:02:30,909 Be more caring and learn the art of foreplay. 40 00:02:33,083 --> 00:02:35,189 She may then prefer you to the banana every time. 41 00:03:30,279 --> 00:03:31,935 Arey,Sanjay. 42 00:03:36,146 --> 00:03:37,976 -[in English] Morning. How are you? -[man] Fine. 43 00:03:52,784 --> 00:03:54,475 [man in English] One of my partners. 44 00:03:54,510 --> 00:03:56,615 [Dr. Watsa] What is the meaning of old and young? Everybody has got the same. 45 00:04:00,688 --> 00:04:04,589 [in English] I got this compliment from someone else. 46 00:04:04,623 --> 00:04:05,866 [Dr. Watsa] You got compliments? 47 00:04:11,147 --> 00:04:13,045 [in English] Have you had any intercourse also? 48 00:04:22,710 --> 00:04:24,988 [Dr. Watsa in English] Okay, let's have a look at you and see. 49 00:04:25,886 --> 00:04:28,026 I don't see anything old about it. 50 00:04:28,060 --> 00:04:29,959 Looks very good and smart. 51 00:04:29,993 --> 00:04:32,133 You don't need to have an erection pointing upwards. 52 00:04:32,168 --> 00:04:34,308 Or downwards. 53 00:04:34,343 --> 00:04:37,311 Even diameter, you will see. 54 00:04:46,182 --> 00:04:49,012 [man in English] According to her it's too thin. 55 00:04:53,500 --> 00:04:54,742 [in English] Everything is good. 56 00:05:03,682 --> 00:05:05,339 -[woman on phone] Hello? -Hello, yes? 57 00:05:05,374 --> 00:05:07,721 Hi, Dr. Watsa, it's Erica from Radio 1. 58 00:05:07,755 --> 00:05:09,999 -Yes, good evening. -[Erica] Good evening. 59 00:05:10,033 --> 00:05:12,691 So are you ready for this? We'll ask you a couple of questions. 60 00:05:12,726 --> 00:05:14,348 -Okay. Right. -Okay? 61 00:05:14,383 --> 00:05:16,523 -Are you ready? Let's go. -Let's go. 62 00:05:18,110 --> 00:05:19,560 [Erica] Welcome to Drive Mumbai, 63 00:05:19,595 --> 00:05:21,493 and there's no other way to say this 64 00:05:21,528 --> 00:05:23,702 but let's talk about sex, Dr. Watsa. 65 00:05:23,737 --> 00:05:25,083 Okay. 66 00:05:25,117 --> 00:05:27,050 Let's do that. 67 00:05:27,085 --> 00:05:28,707 [Erica] What is it like to be known 68 00:05:28,742 --> 00:05:30,571 as India's foremost sexologist? 69 00:05:30,606 --> 00:05:33,367 -Oh, very embarrassing, no doubt. -[Erica laughs] 70 00:05:33,402 --> 00:05:36,025 Anyway, I'm quite happy that after 40 years of work, 71 00:05:36,059 --> 00:05:40,374 somebody has said good things about me and I like that. 72 00:05:40,409 --> 00:05:42,376 [Erica] You know, talking about sex education in schools, 73 00:05:42,411 --> 00:05:44,758 how important is it for us to get the facts right? 74 00:05:44,792 --> 00:05:47,933 And should we start early about age-appropriate explanations 75 00:05:47,968 --> 00:05:49,314 about the birds and the bees? 76 00:05:49,349 --> 00:05:51,212 [Dr. Watsa] You got me on the wrong foot over there. 77 00:05:51,247 --> 00:05:54,561 For example, in Maharashtra, Karnataka, 78 00:05:54,595 --> 00:05:57,391 and many others, sex education is banned in schools. 79 00:05:57,426 --> 00:05:59,566 [Erica] That is shocking. [Dr. Watsa] Yeah, and so, therefore, 80 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,258 I don't know where they get their education from really. 81 00:06:02,292 --> 00:06:04,571 Because parents are not very good at that. 82 00:06:04,605 --> 00:06:07,090 Teachers are not highly skilled in doing that. 83 00:06:09,438 --> 00:06:12,406 So I think they're left on their own which is a pity. 84 00:06:12,441 --> 00:06:14,891 -[Erica] Thank you so much for joining us, Dr. Watsa. -Thank you. 85 00:06:14,926 --> 00:06:16,237 Whether we wish to admit it or not, 86 00:06:16,272 --> 00:06:19,551 we could all do with advice on sex. 87 00:06:19,586 --> 00:06:22,174 So when in doubt, please ask the sexpert Dr. Watsa. 88 00:06:28,284 --> 00:06:30,079 [Meenal Baghel] When we were designing the paper, 89 00:06:30,113 --> 00:06:32,253 I said, you know, I want a daily sex column. 90 00:06:32,288 --> 00:06:35,809 And one of my colleagues suggested Dr. Watsa. 91 00:06:35,843 --> 00:06:38,121 One of the things that went in his favor was his age, 92 00:06:38,156 --> 00:06:41,124 the fact that he'd been a gynecologist earlier. 93 00:06:43,023 --> 00:06:44,990 For nine years, he's been doing this 94 00:06:45,025 --> 00:06:46,647 seven days a week, 95 00:06:46,682 --> 00:06:48,442 month after month, year on year. 96 00:06:48,477 --> 00:06:51,031 I can't see well, is it 37 or 27 mail? 97 00:06:51,618 --> 00:06:53,378 17 mail. 98 00:06:56,485 --> 00:06:59,453 Dr. Watsa's column turned out to be a big hook, 99 00:06:59,488 --> 00:07:02,491 but it was only partly designed as a hook. 100 00:07:02,525 --> 00:07:08,117 Partly, I really wanted us in the paper to discuss issues of sexuality. 101 00:07:08,151 --> 00:07:11,638 [woman] Have you ever read the column called Ask The Sexpert? 102 00:07:12,846 --> 00:07:16,608 No, I've not read it. I know from some people. 103 00:07:16,643 --> 00:07:19,680 -[woman] What do you know about it? -I don't know. 104 00:07:19,715 --> 00:07:21,613 [laughing] 105 00:07:21,648 --> 00:07:24,305 You remember you were discussing with me about that? 106 00:07:24,340 --> 00:07:27,308 It's a very interesting column you were saying. 107 00:07:27,343 --> 00:07:29,656 My family is demanding that I get married. 108 00:07:29,690 --> 00:07:32,866 How can I ascertain if the girl is a virgin? 109 00:07:32,900 --> 00:07:34,971 Most of the questioners are male, 110 00:07:35,006 --> 00:07:38,009 but he will always stress on the woman's rights. 111 00:07:38,043 --> 00:07:40,149 I suggest you don't get married. 112 00:07:40,183 --> 00:07:43,842 Unless you appoint detectives, there's no way to find out. 113 00:07:43,877 --> 00:07:47,639 Spare any poor woman of your suspicious mind. 114 00:07:47,674 --> 00:07:49,814 And the things that make sex so wonderful 115 00:07:49,848 --> 00:07:52,368 like where there is equality between two partners. 116 00:08:47,250 --> 00:08:48,700 [woman] We have Dr. Pratiba Naitthani, 117 00:08:48,735 --> 00:08:51,876 a social activist and a professor of political science 118 00:08:51,910 --> 00:08:54,223 in St. Xavier's College, Mumbai. 119 00:08:54,257 --> 00:08:55,949 She has been a part of many campaigns 120 00:08:55,983 --> 00:08:57,951 relating to censorship issues in our country. 121 00:09:01,264 --> 00:09:04,233 [Pratiba Naitthani] I'll begin with an example of a condom ad 122 00:09:04,267 --> 00:09:09,134 where you have three young boys and there are five model-like girls 123 00:09:09,169 --> 00:09:13,242 in modern clothes, making suggestive gestures. 124 00:09:13,276 --> 00:09:16,590 And then, these boys start moving towards those girls 125 00:09:16,625 --> 00:09:18,109 and then the condom ad says... 126 00:09:20,974 --> 00:09:22,769 and use a condom. 127 00:09:22,803 --> 00:09:26,911 [in English] Now, as a woman, I find this ad highly objectionable. 128 00:09:26,945 --> 00:09:30,500 Don't tell me that you're going to now moralize to them 129 00:09:30,535 --> 00:09:32,261 as to not have sex. 130 00:09:32,295 --> 00:09:36,506 Mr. Kathar, first of all, why are we so allergic to morality? 131 00:09:38,543 --> 00:09:41,995 I am proud of this morality and I will talk about this morality. 132 00:09:42,029 --> 00:09:44,342 You might not like it, you are entitled to your opinion. 133 00:09:44,376 --> 00:09:47,621 India is a free country. Yeah... 134 00:09:47,656 --> 00:09:50,175 I always used to be the monitor of the class. 135 00:09:50,210 --> 00:09:52,453 The best person is always the monitor. 136 00:09:52,488 --> 00:09:55,456 And I remember I used to chase the boys with a ruler in my hand. 137 00:09:55,491 --> 00:09:57,148 I used to beat them up. 138 00:09:57,182 --> 00:09:58,839 And even now, when we meet for school reunions, 139 00:09:58,874 --> 00:10:00,772 they introduce me to their wives that, 140 00:10:00,807 --> 00:10:03,154 "This was the girl who beat me up the most." 141 00:10:03,188 --> 00:10:07,123 -[woman] You were amazing in your speech. -Thank you. 142 00:10:07,158 --> 00:10:10,644 I mean people think I'm mad, but I keep taking up every possible issue 143 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:12,301 which is connected with women and children, 144 00:10:12,335 --> 00:10:14,337 related to media and child rights. 145 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:24,313 InMumbai Mirror, they have a column called Ask The Sexpert. 146 00:10:24,347 --> 00:10:28,524 That one column is something which I think is disastrous. 147 00:10:28,558 --> 00:10:31,872 For example, the doctor says, "Do it, as long as you're enjoying it. 148 00:10:31,907 --> 00:10:34,495 "As long as you are using condoms." 149 00:10:34,530 --> 00:10:36,497 And then, how to prevent pregnancies and all. 150 00:10:36,532 --> 00:10:38,430 What are we doing? Are we promoting sex? 151 00:10:41,537 --> 00:10:43,677 A girl saying that, "I use the mascara tube 152 00:10:44,885 --> 00:10:46,853 "I don't have a dildo, 153 00:10:46,887 --> 00:10:50,166 "so I insert the mascara tube in my vagina, and is it okay?" 154 00:10:50,201 --> 00:10:53,169 And he says, "As long as it's clean, you have to look at the hygiene." 155 00:10:53,204 --> 00:10:54,861 What are you teaching people? 156 00:11:02,558 --> 00:11:04,905 Is it safe to use colored condoms for penetrative sex? 157 00:11:04,940 --> 00:11:08,219 Colored condoms are safe, used for oral sex or intercourse. 158 00:11:08,253 --> 00:11:12,085 Spend more money and you can keep a different color for a different day. 159 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:17,021 Daily, I get 60-65 questions. 160 00:11:17,055 --> 00:11:20,714 I don't know the name, I don't know who's written about it, and all that. 161 00:11:20,749 --> 00:11:24,545 Any kind of acidic substance can prevent pregnancy. 162 00:11:24,580 --> 00:11:28,584 Can I pour some drops of lemon or orange juice in my girlfriend's vagina 163 00:11:28,618 --> 00:11:30,862 after the intercourse? Will it harm her? 164 00:11:30,897 --> 00:11:34,901 He said that acidic things are also like family planning. 165 00:11:34,935 --> 00:11:39,112 So, for family planning, if I squeeze a lemon on the vagina 166 00:11:39,146 --> 00:11:42,115 then is it okay or not? 167 00:11:42,149 --> 00:11:45,566 So the reply is are you a lemonade vendor? 168 00:11:45,601 --> 00:11:47,879 Where did you get this weird idea from? 169 00:11:47,914 --> 00:11:51,124 There are many other safe and easy methods of birth control. 170 00:11:51,158 --> 00:11:53,643 Consider using a condom. 171 00:11:57,613 --> 00:12:00,167 They come up with a lot of weird questions. 172 00:12:01,341 --> 00:12:03,412 If you told the word "sex" to her, 173 00:12:03,446 --> 00:12:06,760 her whole body used to tremble, or something like that. 174 00:12:06,795 --> 00:12:11,109 What's happening? Like, all this was quite alien to me. 175 00:12:11,144 --> 00:12:13,905 And then it was like, "Okay." 176 00:12:13,940 --> 00:12:16,080 [Dr. Watsa] Now, after ten years or something, 177 00:12:16,114 --> 00:12:19,773 she corrects me on some of the terminologies 178 00:12:19,808 --> 00:12:22,949 and, you know, like, 179 00:12:22,983 --> 00:12:26,262 "Why don't you put it this way, and not that way." 180 00:12:26,297 --> 00:12:29,990 Initially, if anyone would speak about sex and all that, 181 00:12:30,025 --> 00:12:31,785 you were like, "Okay..." 182 00:12:31,820 --> 00:12:33,166 And now, it's... 183 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:34,961 "What's so great about it?" 184 00:12:34,995 --> 00:12:37,308 Yeah, the attitude changes. 185 00:12:39,344 --> 00:12:41,657 [Dr. Watsa] Nowadays, she gets the better of me. 186 00:13:24,389 --> 00:13:26,840 [crows cawing] 187 00:13:44,375 --> 00:13:46,446 [in English] Hello, I'm Dr. Watsa, here. Who's speaking? 188 00:13:47,412 --> 00:13:49,449 Hi, is it Hemlata? Yeah. 189 00:13:50,553 --> 00:13:52,555 I'm very well. And how are you doing? 190 00:13:53,625 --> 00:13:55,420 Good, good. 191 00:13:55,455 --> 00:13:57,043 So, I was wondering how is that case getting on? 192 00:13:57,077 --> 00:13:58,561 Is it still going on? 193 00:13:59,735 --> 00:14:01,806 Good God. What's happened to it? 194 00:14:04,084 --> 00:14:06,638 Ask them to hurry up because I'm already 91. 195 00:14:08,433 --> 00:14:09,883 [chuckles] 196 00:14:09,918 --> 00:14:12,368 They've filed a case against theBombay Mirror 197 00:14:12,403 --> 00:14:15,199 and me, of obscenity. 198 00:14:15,233 --> 00:14:19,893 I was a bit worried about it, I mean, not expecting that to happen. 199 00:14:19,928 --> 00:14:21,895 So long as you don't put me in jail, it's okay. 200 00:14:22,931 --> 00:14:24,760 [laughs] 201 00:14:24,794 --> 00:14:28,384 It can lead to imprisonment if they prove it. 202 00:14:28,419 --> 00:14:30,041 Now, how they will prove it, one doesn't know. 203 00:14:30,076 --> 00:14:31,594 Let's see. 204 00:14:42,847 --> 00:14:45,436 [Pratiba] I have filed cases against this column. 205 00:14:46,609 --> 00:14:49,923 I know that I am standing by the law 206 00:14:49,958 --> 00:14:52,443 and I want something which is definitely needed 207 00:14:52,477 --> 00:14:54,272 to protect our younger generation. 208 00:14:56,274 --> 00:14:58,414 It's not a filthy, sex-rated 209 00:14:58,449 --> 00:15:01,831 content publication which people will not buy. 210 00:15:04,834 --> 00:15:06,802 This is a newspaper we're talking about. 211 00:15:17,330 --> 00:15:19,642 Well, I think Dr. Watsa and I have done rounds 212 00:15:19,677 --> 00:15:22,645 of all the metropolitan courts in Mumbai. 213 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:25,165 I think these cases are really frivolous 214 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:28,617 and filed by attention-seeking people. 215 00:15:28,651 --> 00:15:33,829 I think, as a newspaper group, we will fight these cases. 216 00:15:33,863 --> 00:15:36,832 Because obscenity, like beauty, lies in the eyes of the beholder. 217 00:15:50,742 --> 00:15:52,365 [doorbell rings] 218 00:16:13,041 --> 00:16:14,835 [in English] What do you want? 219 00:16:14,870 --> 00:16:16,734 Doctor, I want to meet with you. 220 00:16:32,577 --> 00:16:33,751 [in English] If you don't mind, sir. 221 00:16:37,548 --> 00:16:39,032 [in English] I'll have to see whether I can see you. 222 00:16:39,067 --> 00:16:40,206 Okay, sir, thank you, sir. 223 00:16:49,939 --> 00:16:51,872 For me? Thank you very much, sir. 224 00:16:51,907 --> 00:16:53,978 -Welcome. Sit down, please. -Thank you very much. 225 00:17:03,919 --> 00:17:06,784 She said he's 90 years old, he's very nice. 226 00:18:32,525 --> 00:18:33,388 [in English] Very good. 227 00:19:19,434 --> 00:19:22,437 [in English] So that means you are normal. Okay? You are normal. 228 00:20:25,327 --> 00:20:27,087 [man] Thank you very much. [Dr. Watsa] Welcome. 229 00:20:27,122 --> 00:20:28,434 All the best to you. Good luck. 230 00:20:28,468 --> 00:20:30,263 You'll be all right. 231 00:20:30,298 --> 00:20:31,471 Tell me if there's nothing wrong 232 00:20:31,506 --> 00:20:32,645 if it's wrong, come back. 233 00:20:32,679 --> 00:20:34,025 [man] Okay, sir. Okay, sir. 234 00:20:59,154 --> 00:21:00,017 [laughs] 235 00:21:00,983 --> 00:21:02,847 That's why saris are so sexy 236 00:21:02,882 --> 00:21:05,540 because there is a possibility at every fold. 237 00:21:07,162 --> 00:21:09,302 There's something very non-threatening 238 00:21:09,337 --> 00:21:13,133 about an older person talking about sex. 239 00:21:13,168 --> 00:21:14,618 And I think that's what Dr. Mahinder Watsa 240 00:21:14,652 --> 00:21:15,826 has going for him. 241 00:21:17,517 --> 00:21:18,967 The way he spoke 242 00:21:19,001 --> 00:21:20,969 made it possible for 243 00:21:21,003 --> 00:21:22,729 me to be able to speak more freely. 244 00:21:25,491 --> 00:21:26,871 [all cheering] 245 00:21:26,906 --> 00:21:28,666 [crowd clapping] 246 00:21:29,495 --> 00:21:31,704 If you're having a vagina 247 00:21:31,738 --> 00:21:33,326 remember it is not yours. 248 00:21:33,361 --> 00:21:34,879 [all laughing] 249 00:21:34,914 --> 00:21:37,330 It belongs to everybody. 250 00:21:37,365 --> 00:21:41,334 This is the female's Indian reproductive system. 251 00:21:41,369 --> 00:21:43,681 This area over here is called 252 00:21:43,716 --> 00:21:45,994 -Papa's concern. -[all laughing] 253 00:21:46,028 --> 00:21:48,548 So when your reproductive system 254 00:21:48,583 --> 00:21:51,344 -is of a penisable age... -[all laughing] 255 00:21:51,379 --> 00:21:52,725 ...he will decide 256 00:21:52,759 --> 00:21:54,658 who can slip it inside. 257 00:21:54,692 --> 00:21:55,693 [crowd cheering and applauding] 258 00:21:58,386 --> 00:22:00,767 And when he came for that show I was just like 259 00:22:01,527 --> 00:22:02,666 flipping out. 260 00:22:02,700 --> 00:22:03,494 I was so excited. 261 00:22:03,529 --> 00:22:05,047 He was like, you know, 262 00:22:05,082 --> 00:22:07,567 "I have a lot to learn from you, young lady." 263 00:22:07,602 --> 00:22:09,120 And I was just like... [laughs] 264 00:22:14,781 --> 00:22:17,197 I am a 25 year old man. 265 00:22:17,232 --> 00:22:21,374 My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship 266 00:22:21,409 --> 00:22:23,514 for three years. 267 00:22:23,549 --> 00:22:29,417 Of late, she has started watching porn and become addicted with 268 00:22:29,451 --> 00:22:35,940 mimicking certain erotic acts with sex toys as shown on the film. 269 00:22:35,975 --> 00:22:39,634 Will it affect our sex life and will she face any problems in future? 270 00:22:40,911 --> 00:22:42,602 So what answer to give to them? 271 00:22:42,637 --> 00:22:45,743 So simple thing is she's enjoying herself. Why are you not 272 00:22:45,778 --> 00:22:47,400 when you are getting 273 00:22:47,435 --> 00:22:48,643 live porn action 274 00:22:49,816 --> 00:22:50,921 gratis? 275 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:57,237 A lot of people refused to believe that he was for real 276 00:22:57,272 --> 00:23:01,103 and I had to, I remember, once put his photograph in the paper to say 277 00:23:01,138 --> 00:23:02,829 that he does exist. 278 00:23:18,120 --> 00:23:20,744 I just wanted to take a few minutes to kick off our question and answer portion 279 00:23:20,778 --> 00:23:22,815 the really saucy part of the evening, I hope. 280 00:23:22,849 --> 00:23:26,439 And to invite Dr. Mahinder Watsa, the sexpert 281 00:23:26,474 --> 00:23:28,786 that we all know and love, up to the panel. 282 00:23:29,787 --> 00:23:30,995 Give Dr. Watsa a hand. 283 00:23:31,030 --> 00:23:31,996 [applauding] 284 00:23:33,204 --> 00:23:35,448 First of all I'm feeling very defensive. 285 00:23:35,483 --> 00:23:38,486 There's a lot of clever ladies next to me... 286 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:39,935 [all laughing] 287 00:23:39,970 --> 00:23:42,006 And knowing so much about sex education 288 00:23:42,041 --> 00:23:43,939 that I didn't know myself. 289 00:23:43,974 --> 00:23:45,285 [all laughing] 290 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:46,977 I remember a case where, 291 00:23:48,047 --> 00:23:50,670 one of these young boys, 292 00:23:50,705 --> 00:23:52,327 he came and said, you know, 293 00:23:52,879 --> 00:23:53,984 "Can you tell us 294 00:23:55,226 --> 00:23:57,470 "how much blood comes when, you know, 295 00:23:57,505 --> 00:23:58,816 you have the first intercourse?" 296 00:24:00,646 --> 00:24:03,476 So I asked them whether you think it's a bucketful or... 297 00:24:03,511 --> 00:24:04,684 [all laughing] 298 00:24:04,719 --> 00:24:07,480 And the boy takes out a handkerchief from his pocket 299 00:24:07,515 --> 00:24:09,482 and says this little blood which is there 300 00:24:09,517 --> 00:24:10,621 do you think she's a virgin? 301 00:24:10,656 --> 00:24:13,486 -Oh. -Okay? 302 00:24:13,521 --> 00:24:16,316 So this is the situation which we are in. 303 00:24:16,351 --> 00:24:18,491 But really speaking we should start with 304 00:24:18,526 --> 00:24:22,322 just simple hygiene which is very important. 305 00:24:22,357 --> 00:24:24,497 Dr. Watsa, if you could talk a little bit about 306 00:24:24,532 --> 00:24:25,636 your career and 307 00:24:25,671 --> 00:24:27,845 how far we've come 308 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:29,709 and also where you would like to see us go 309 00:24:29,744 --> 00:24:31,228 in terms of sexual education. 310 00:24:31,262 --> 00:24:32,505 That's a long story. 311 00:24:32,540 --> 00:24:34,507 [all laughing] 312 00:24:34,542 --> 00:24:36,854 [man] The school that our kids go to, 313 00:24:36,889 --> 00:24:40,686 has termed "sexy" as a bad term. 314 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,066 So what is the word which is used? 315 00:24:42,101 --> 00:24:44,172 Because I remember when I was about 16 316 00:24:44,206 --> 00:24:46,036 somebody did call me Sexy Watsa. 317 00:24:46,070 --> 00:24:47,416 [all laughing] 318 00:24:50,385 --> 00:24:52,905 What is the funniest, sort of, most ridiculous 319 00:24:52,939 --> 00:24:54,527 or most fantastical question 320 00:24:54,562 --> 00:24:55,735 that's come across your desk? 321 00:24:55,770 --> 00:24:57,392 Good God. 322 00:24:57,426 --> 00:25:00,015 -There are so many I can't remember now. -[all laughing] 323 00:25:00,050 --> 00:25:02,224 There was this one thing that somebody wants to do a goat. 324 00:25:03,709 --> 00:25:05,020 I wrote to him and asked him, 325 00:25:05,055 --> 00:25:06,884 "Have you asked Lucy herself?" 326 00:25:06,919 --> 00:25:08,127 [all laughing] 327 00:25:11,233 --> 00:25:13,408 [woman] That seems like a great way to end this conversation... 328 00:25:13,442 --> 00:25:17,377 It's such an honor to be here and see you live! 329 00:25:17,412 --> 00:25:18,896 Especially in doing the same subject. 330 00:25:18,931 --> 00:25:20,242 [woman] I do have a request. 331 00:25:21,243 --> 00:25:23,556 For me, sex ed started with your columns. 332 00:25:23,591 --> 00:25:26,041 It really did! I'm not kidding. 333 00:25:26,076 --> 00:25:27,560 My parents never spoke to me about it. 334 00:25:27,595 --> 00:25:29,320 I started reading the newspaper when I was 12. 335 00:25:30,425 --> 00:25:32,151 I really need a picture with you! 336 00:25:37,259 --> 00:25:39,917 I'm a huge fan! I read all your columns. 337 00:25:39,952 --> 00:25:41,298 She said that she remembered your... 338 00:25:41,332 --> 00:25:42,506 I still remember the day... 339 00:25:43,265 --> 00:25:44,335 One alone. 340 00:25:45,992 --> 00:25:47,718 I'm a huge fan. 341 00:25:47,753 --> 00:25:48,581 Thank you. 342 00:25:49,962 --> 00:25:52,516 You're really hilarious and to the point. 343 00:25:53,275 --> 00:25:54,725 My name is Akansha. 344 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:55,761 Akansha Chawla. 345 00:26:01,007 --> 00:26:02,491 You were wonderful, honestly. 346 00:26:02,526 --> 00:26:04,770 You were everything that everyone was looking for in this event. 347 00:26:04,804 --> 00:26:05,943 -Really? -Yeah. 348 00:26:05,978 --> 00:26:08,601 Light and funny and making it relatable and 349 00:26:08,636 --> 00:26:09,775 all the things that sex ed should be. 350 00:26:28,483 --> 00:26:30,623 [Dr. Watsa] We are some 10 to 15 nations together. 351 00:26:33,143 --> 00:26:35,835 You go to any state and they've got their own 352 00:26:35,870 --> 00:26:37,975 culture and their own way of behaving. 353 00:26:40,184 --> 00:26:41,392 All across the board 354 00:26:44,016 --> 00:26:46,294 attitudes are more or less the same 355 00:26:46,328 --> 00:26:48,814 as well as the questions are also the same 356 00:26:48,848 --> 00:26:51,402 and the worries or the anxieties are also the same. 357 00:26:55,544 --> 00:26:57,995 The world has changed very fast and so has India. 358 00:26:59,065 --> 00:27:01,481 So as far as my field goes 359 00:27:01,516 --> 00:27:03,000 I think there's a great need. 360 00:27:10,249 --> 00:27:14,322 There's a raging debate in Maharashtra and Karnataka on sex education. 361 00:27:14,356 --> 00:27:16,358 What kind of sex education should children be getting? 362 00:27:23,711 --> 00:27:25,471 Oh, my gosh! 363 00:27:25,505 --> 00:27:29,337 When I went through the photographs and the instructions for the teachers 364 00:27:29,371 --> 00:27:31,857 I was literally shaken to the core. 365 00:27:31,891 --> 00:27:33,859 You have to put a huge chart 366 00:27:33,893 --> 00:27:35,895 of the female vagina 367 00:27:35,930 --> 00:27:37,828 and the male organs 368 00:27:37,863 --> 00:27:40,348 and then the students have to identify that "What is it called?" 369 00:27:40,382 --> 00:27:42,522 It uses words like hole 370 00:27:42,557 --> 00:27:44,904 while describing women's anatomy. 371 00:27:44,939 --> 00:27:46,699 It uses terms like, 372 00:27:46,734 --> 00:27:47,907 sucking 373 00:27:47,942 --> 00:27:49,702 while describing oral sex. 374 00:27:49,737 --> 00:27:50,876 And the book also goes to the extent... 375 00:27:52,394 --> 00:27:54,569 The book also goes to the extent of saying... 376 00:27:56,122 --> 00:27:59,367 First of all it aimed at HIV/AIDS awareness 377 00:27:59,401 --> 00:28:02,542 so you can't call it a sex education program per se. 378 00:28:02,577 --> 00:28:05,856 I think if you want to tell children to protect themselves against HIV 379 00:28:05,891 --> 00:28:09,273 then abstinence is the only thing which will protect them 100% 380 00:28:09,308 --> 00:28:11,586 not a condom or any other contraceptive. 381 00:28:17,488 --> 00:28:20,215 I raised an objection to this entire curriculum 382 00:28:20,250 --> 00:28:22,321 because it was a highly irresponsible curriculum. 383 00:28:30,605 --> 00:28:32,572 [female newscaster] Several states including Gujarat, 384 00:28:32,607 --> 00:28:35,472 Madhya Pradesh, Maharashtra, Karnataka, Rajasthan, 385 00:28:35,506 --> 00:28:37,577 Kerala, Chhattisgarh and Goa, 386 00:28:37,612 --> 00:28:39,476 declared the program unacceptable 387 00:28:39,510 --> 00:28:40,753 and suspended it. 388 00:28:40,788 --> 00:28:43,963 The petition committee accepted my arguments and 389 00:28:43,998 --> 00:28:46,345 went ahead with objecting to the program. 390 00:28:51,453 --> 00:28:55,250 We have an 8,000, 5,000 year old civilization. 391 00:28:55,285 --> 00:28:58,840 It's not that we had sex education in the schools every time. 392 00:29:05,985 --> 00:29:07,642 [man] ...and the conception takes place. 393 00:29:07,676 --> 00:29:11,335 Suppose no union is there between the egg and the sperm 394 00:29:11,370 --> 00:29:13,959 no conception will be there... 395 00:29:13,993 --> 00:29:18,618 In 1952 when the Government of India started five-year plans 396 00:29:18,653 --> 00:29:20,103 for development of India, 397 00:29:20,137 --> 00:29:22,795 family planning was included. 398 00:29:24,555 --> 00:29:25,798 [man] Only for married people. 399 00:29:29,837 --> 00:29:32,391 Only for married people and those who wish to plan their families. 400 00:29:36,222 --> 00:29:38,535 But human sexuality had no such backing. 401 00:29:42,228 --> 00:29:44,817 Even in medical curriculums, the undergraduates 402 00:29:44,852 --> 00:29:47,164 they were not taught anything about human sexuality. 403 00:29:52,998 --> 00:29:56,484 He played a very pioneering role in that situation. 404 00:29:56,518 --> 00:29:59,728 Just as I was qualifying or just qualified, 405 00:29:59,763 --> 00:30:03,146 there was a very good journalist by the name of Talyarkhan. 406 00:30:03,180 --> 00:30:06,045 This lady used to publish 407 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,703 a women's journal known asTrend. 408 00:30:08,737 --> 00:30:10,429 So I used to write the back of that page 409 00:30:11,188 --> 00:30:12,534 answering questions. 410 00:30:16,228 --> 00:30:19,507 I used to get these letters from young people, 411 00:30:19,541 --> 00:30:21,440 you know, from distant places 412 00:30:24,201 --> 00:30:26,686 saying that we were molested as a child 413 00:30:26,721 --> 00:30:27,998 and uncle did this 414 00:30:28,033 --> 00:30:31,174 or a friend came to the house and threatened me 415 00:30:31,208 --> 00:30:33,176 now I'm going to get married so 416 00:30:33,210 --> 00:30:35,247 my husband will know that I had sex 417 00:30:35,281 --> 00:30:37,042 so I'll commit suicide. 418 00:30:39,251 --> 00:30:41,391 So that was the time when I 419 00:30:41,425 --> 00:30:42,633 really started getting interested. 420 00:30:44,739 --> 00:30:46,603 Frankly, I didn't know what to do about them 421 00:30:46,637 --> 00:30:49,606 because there was nobody who I could fall back upon. 422 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:53,092 There was no NGO who was doing any work 423 00:30:53,127 --> 00:30:56,061 there were no doctors who knew very much about the subject. 424 00:30:59,927 --> 00:31:03,723 [Dr. Saroj Jha] Dr. Watsa has had to face huge challenges. 425 00:31:03,758 --> 00:31:07,796 Despite the Kamasutra, talking about sex was taboo in India. 426 00:31:07,831 --> 00:31:12,456 He was the one who started the first workshop on human sexuality. 427 00:31:14,596 --> 00:31:16,460 Now finding this picture is a difficult thing. 428 00:31:17,289 --> 00:31:18,738 Here we are. 429 00:31:18,773 --> 00:31:21,224 [Dr. Jha] Dr. Watsa said "How do you expect to be 430 00:31:21,258 --> 00:31:23,295 talking about sex 431 00:31:23,329 --> 00:31:25,676 "to people if you're not using their language?" 432 00:31:35,341 --> 00:31:40,139 He was there at one of my lectures at the Indian Medical Council 433 00:31:40,174 --> 00:31:42,279 and it was a very big meeting 434 00:31:42,314 --> 00:31:44,281 more than 800 doctors 435 00:31:44,316 --> 00:31:47,595 where I was describing the history of homosexuality 436 00:31:47,629 --> 00:31:49,873 and then one very senior doctor gets up 437 00:31:50,632 --> 00:31:51,668 and says, 438 00:31:51,702 --> 00:31:53,325 "Do you think there'll be any progress 439 00:31:53,359 --> 00:31:55,085 in getting an injectible 440 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,363 "where we can change a homosexual into a heterosexual?" 441 00:31:58,295 --> 00:32:00,297 I was very upset. 442 00:32:00,332 --> 00:32:02,610 I was as polite as possible. 443 00:32:02,644 --> 00:32:04,129 I said, "No, but, 444 00:32:04,163 --> 00:32:06,959 maybe I'll find an injectible 445 00:32:06,994 --> 00:32:09,962 that makes a heterosexual into a homosexual." 446 00:32:09,997 --> 00:32:11,999 And the person who got up and clapped 447 00:32:12,033 --> 00:32:14,967 was Dr. Watsa. 448 00:32:15,002 --> 00:32:17,521 [Dr. Kalpana Apte] There was this one training program we were invited to. 449 00:32:17,556 --> 00:32:20,835 All the doctors and counselors and he was talking about 450 00:32:20,869 --> 00:32:23,355 the family planning work that we did, contraception. 451 00:32:23,389 --> 00:32:25,978 And then he said how sex was an integral part 452 00:32:26,013 --> 00:32:28,498 of any contraceptive work that we did. 453 00:32:28,532 --> 00:32:30,638 So far so good. It wasn't too bad. 454 00:32:30,672 --> 00:32:33,986 Then he got into his ultra-radical mood 455 00:32:34,021 --> 00:32:35,367 and he says, "So, 456 00:32:35,401 --> 00:32:37,127 "who can tell me about oral sex?" 457 00:32:37,162 --> 00:32:38,818 And I'm like, don't look at me. 458 00:32:38,853 --> 00:32:40,199 -Don't ask me. I don't know. -[man laughing] 459 00:32:40,234 --> 00:32:41,994 You don't exist. I don't exist. 460 00:32:42,029 --> 00:32:43,720 I was looking... All of us. 461 00:32:43,754 --> 00:32:46,654 None of us wanted to look at him. 462 00:32:46,688 --> 00:32:49,553 These conversations were not easy to be had in those days. 463 00:33:08,917 --> 00:33:09,746 [doorbell ringing] 464 00:33:13,715 --> 00:33:15,717 [woman] This time he's taken the initiative 465 00:33:15,752 --> 00:33:17,857 and he's taken the effort to come here. 466 00:33:17,892 --> 00:33:23,208 So I'm 100% sure he really wants things to be sorted now. 467 00:33:23,242 --> 00:33:26,866 And he told me, "Okay, go ahead, find a good doctor and we'll go." 468 00:33:26,901 --> 00:33:29,559 So, like, the first step was taken by him. 469 00:33:29,593 --> 00:33:31,561 [Dr. Watsa] How did you find a good doctor? 470 00:33:31,595 --> 00:33:34,219 [woman laughing] I was hunting online. 471 00:33:34,253 --> 00:33:36,704 -I was doing a lot of research. -[Dr. Watsa] You hunted me, is it? 472 00:33:36,738 --> 00:33:38,740 -[both] Yeah. -[woman laughing] 473 00:33:38,775 --> 00:33:40,052 Amazing. 474 00:33:40,087 --> 00:33:41,778 How long have you been married? 475 00:33:41,812 --> 00:33:42,606 [both] Four years. 476 00:33:44,091 --> 00:33:46,231 [man] You know, everything is perfect in our marriage. 477 00:33:46,645 --> 00:33:48,267 Very good. 478 00:33:48,302 --> 00:33:50,614 You're a remarkable couple. We'll have to give you a medal. 479 00:33:50,649 --> 00:33:52,202 What do you find good in her? 480 00:33:52,237 --> 00:33:53,548 [man] Everything. 481 00:33:53,583 --> 00:33:56,068 Everything? My God. She must be very pleased with you. 482 00:33:56,103 --> 00:33:58,277 -You don't quarrel with him it seems. -[woman laughs] 483 00:33:58,312 --> 00:34:02,419 No, we do fight. Like we used to fight a lot, earlier. 484 00:34:02,454 --> 00:34:03,662 How often do you have sex? 485 00:34:05,836 --> 00:34:08,805 [woman in English] He doesn't feel like at all. 486 00:34:08,839 --> 00:34:12,636 Even if I come close to him, I can see it on his face 487 00:34:12,671 --> 00:34:14,914 that he doesn't want it at all. 488 00:34:14,949 --> 00:34:17,641 And he gets irritated. I can see it on his face. 489 00:34:17,676 --> 00:34:21,645 You want to change that to something better to make your wife happy? 490 00:34:31,966 --> 00:34:34,313 I am in the transport business. 491 00:34:34,348 --> 00:34:37,316 [in English] When we got married, I was very much well settled. 492 00:34:37,351 --> 00:34:40,630 But after marriage, my business was literally shut down. 493 00:34:55,162 --> 00:34:58,855 [in English] Breakfast time is breakfast time and sex time is sex time. 494 00:34:58,889 --> 00:35:01,720 [woman] He's tried doing that but it's just not working for him. 495 00:35:14,215 --> 00:35:17,356 [in English] What you require, you require to make up your mind. 496 00:35:17,391 --> 00:35:20,325 Don't have this one-track mind as your transport business. 497 00:35:20,359 --> 00:35:22,637 The next thing is since you masturbate 498 00:35:22,672 --> 00:35:25,813 you must be thinking of something or the other, correct? 499 00:35:25,847 --> 00:35:27,366 [woman] You don't masturbate. [man] I don't do it. 500 00:35:27,401 --> 00:35:29,161 [woman] He doesn't masturbate at all. 501 00:35:29,196 --> 00:35:30,645 You don't masturbate at all? 502 00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,337 So you have nocturnal emissions? 503 00:35:32,371 --> 00:35:33,890 -[man] No. -Then? 504 00:35:36,513 --> 00:35:40,172 In any case, you must be seeing an erection sometime in your life, no? 505 00:35:41,691 --> 00:35:44,003 Don't do intercourse if you don't want to. 506 00:35:44,038 --> 00:35:46,420 You just touch her. Kiss her, hug her. Can you do that? 507 00:35:47,697 --> 00:35:50,217 And you can kiss each other. 508 00:35:50,251 --> 00:35:51,908 At least do you kiss each other or not? 509 00:35:52,771 --> 00:35:54,566 [woman] Yes. [man] Yeah. 510 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,671 [woman] When I cry he gets pissed off. 511 00:35:56,706 --> 00:36:00,572 He gets pissed off and he's like, "Why the hell do you have to cry?" 512 00:36:00,606 --> 00:36:02,367 [man] I turn my face and I go to sleep. 513 00:36:02,401 --> 00:36:03,437 That's the best thing you know? 514 00:36:04,576 --> 00:36:06,716 [woman] No, that's not the best thing. 515 00:36:06,750 --> 00:36:10,237 That's the best escape he's got. 516 00:36:10,271 --> 00:36:13,585 Because he doesn't know how to console somebody who's crying. 517 00:36:13,619 --> 00:36:17,036 And I understood it in a very hard way. 518 00:36:17,071 --> 00:36:20,212 Because, see if I'm sad, I can speak it out, I can cry it out 519 00:36:20,247 --> 00:36:21,938 but he can't even do that. 520 00:36:23,077 --> 00:36:24,803 [Dr. Watsa] You've got a very wise wife, huh? 521 00:36:26,391 --> 00:36:28,531 Do you have any objection to touching her organs? 522 00:36:28,565 --> 00:36:30,118 Do you do that? 523 00:36:30,153 --> 00:36:31,982 [man] No, very rare cases. 524 00:36:33,398 --> 00:36:36,884 This is the clitoris. Which is her penis actually. 525 00:36:36,918 --> 00:36:38,713 This is the one which makes her happy. 526 00:36:38,748 --> 00:36:40,543 Why don't you take her on your lap? 527 00:36:40,577 --> 00:36:43,753 Oral sex is also quite healthy. 528 00:36:43,787 --> 00:36:46,721 There is no dirtiness about it. 529 00:36:46,756 --> 00:36:48,723 If you want to do it, do it. 530 00:36:48,758 --> 00:36:49,931 You can also do it for him. 531 00:36:51,623 --> 00:36:53,141 It's up to you to decide. 532 00:36:53,176 --> 00:36:56,110 Will you keep two days aside in the week? 533 00:36:56,144 --> 00:37:01,253 Whether you do intercourse or you don't, these two days are reserved for 534 00:37:01,288 --> 00:37:03,980 touching, kissing, and hugging and being nice about each other. 535 00:37:05,775 --> 00:37:08,916 It's simple. You've done very well in these three years. 536 00:37:08,950 --> 00:37:11,436 -So, this is one more step. Yeah? -[woman] Yeah. 537 00:37:13,300 --> 00:37:16,095 Anyway, like a good Punjabi now you get better. 538 00:37:16,130 --> 00:37:17,752 All Punjabis should not be like that. 539 00:37:17,787 --> 00:37:19,029 [both laughing] 540 00:37:21,135 --> 00:37:22,585 [man] Thank you, Doctor. Nice meeting you. 541 00:37:22,619 --> 00:37:24,000 [Dr. Watsa] You too. 542 00:37:24,034 --> 00:37:25,450 If there's anything, you'll let me know. 543 00:37:26,796 --> 00:37:28,487 [woman] Thank you so much, Doctor. 544 00:37:30,178 --> 00:37:32,595 [woman] We started from a place where there was no hope 545 00:37:32,629 --> 00:37:35,425 for our relationship, frankly. 546 00:37:35,460 --> 00:37:38,290 Maybe now we both are mentally prepared to take the next step. 547 00:37:38,325 --> 00:37:39,464 [Dr. Watsa] All the best. 548 00:37:39,498 --> 00:37:40,982 [woman] I think it will work out for us. 549 00:37:43,330 --> 00:37:44,296 We'll be fine. 550 00:37:48,196 --> 00:37:49,888 It's a difficult thing, you know, living together. 551 00:37:51,165 --> 00:37:52,166 In a way. 552 00:38:01,175 --> 00:38:03,073 Personally I like something like this, see? 553 00:38:03,522 --> 00:38:04,834 These ones, you know. 554 00:38:05,835 --> 00:38:07,008 Simple things. 555 00:38:09,735 --> 00:38:12,807 Most of the times if it was a shirt or something... 556 00:38:12,842 --> 00:38:14,464 [mumbling] 557 00:38:14,499 --> 00:38:15,638 She'd pick it 558 00:38:15,672 --> 00:38:17,191 and I used to accept that. 559 00:38:23,508 --> 00:38:26,096 She was about 81 when she died. 560 00:38:26,925 --> 00:38:28,651 In 2006. 561 00:38:28,685 --> 00:38:29,859 Some years back now. 562 00:38:33,759 --> 00:38:35,520 [woman] Were you very open? 563 00:38:35,554 --> 00:38:37,901 Did you talk about everything between each other? 564 00:38:40,387 --> 00:38:41,664 [Dr. Watsa] No, not particularly. 565 00:38:41,698 --> 00:38:43,838 Not very much... I mean like, 566 00:38:43,873 --> 00:38:46,531 in the sexual field and all, no. 567 00:38:46,565 --> 00:38:50,086 Regretfully, we didn't spend more time which we should have. 568 00:38:51,536 --> 00:38:54,366 And in fact she became quite independent. 569 00:38:54,401 --> 00:38:55,540 Like for example, 570 00:38:55,574 --> 00:38:57,714 if I went to a conference in Cyprus and all 571 00:38:58,543 --> 00:38:59,889 she was on her own. 572 00:39:04,411 --> 00:39:08,760 But looking back I think I could've been a better husband. 573 00:39:08,794 --> 00:39:12,522 You know, I had more time spent on going to lectures 574 00:39:12,557 --> 00:39:16,388 and things on weekdays and weekends and God knows all the time. 575 00:39:16,423 --> 00:39:18,390 So I should've given her more time. 576 00:39:18,425 --> 00:39:21,289 You know when you have something you don't really bother, 577 00:39:21,324 --> 00:39:24,223 you know, you don't see it in that way. 578 00:39:24,258 --> 00:39:27,226 Now when they're not there, then you start missing them, no? 579 00:39:27,261 --> 00:39:28,296 That is always so. 580 00:39:34,095 --> 00:39:34,993 We can put them back. 581 00:39:39,342 --> 00:39:42,069 I think out of 365 Saturdays and Sundays 582 00:39:42,103 --> 00:39:44,899 I must have been out for 300 Saturdays and Sundays. 583 00:39:44,934 --> 00:39:48,558 Delhi, Jabalpur, all these places. 584 00:39:48,593 --> 00:39:50,595 So many weekends that I was hardly home for the weekends. 585 00:39:52,355 --> 00:39:53,977 Whose kids are these I don't know. 586 00:39:54,944 --> 00:39:55,979 [doorbell rings] 587 00:40:01,329 --> 00:40:02,365 Hmm. 588 00:40:07,025 --> 00:40:09,268 There's a leakage again on the drainage side here. 589 00:40:09,303 --> 00:40:10,442 Drain? 590 00:40:10,477 --> 00:40:13,169 Yeah, on the first floor. It's all dripping. 591 00:40:14,688 --> 00:40:15,689 I don't know what it is. 592 00:40:16,483 --> 00:40:17,449 Mmm. 593 00:40:18,864 --> 00:40:20,832 [Gautam Watsa] We've always been close. 594 00:40:20,866 --> 00:40:24,939 I mean, of course, not as close as most other dads would be 595 00:40:24,974 --> 00:40:27,942 because in the morning he was gone and I was gone. 596 00:40:27,977 --> 00:40:30,945 In the evening he was at his clinic and he never came back till 10:30 597 00:40:30,980 --> 00:40:32,464 and it was the same routine. 598 00:40:32,499 --> 00:40:36,779 It was only over holidays or the occasional weekend 599 00:40:36,813 --> 00:40:38,608 that we'd spend time together. 600 00:40:38,643 --> 00:40:40,127 [Dr. Watsa] Who are the two kids here? 601 00:40:40,161 --> 00:40:42,509 Is one of them Leisha or Ayesha? 602 00:40:42,543 --> 00:40:45,650 No, one is me, that I can make out, but I don't know who the other one is. 603 00:40:46,409 --> 00:40:49,343 -Oh, that's you? -Yeah. 604 00:40:49,377 --> 00:40:54,382 I would finish school around 4:30, Dad would finish office around 5:00. 605 00:40:54,417 --> 00:40:57,696 And on his way back home he was supposed to always fetch me. 606 00:40:57,731 --> 00:40:59,560 Out of the five days in school 607 00:41:00,527 --> 00:41:02,494 he normally forgot to fetch me 608 00:41:02,529 --> 00:41:03,253 four days. 609 00:41:05,842 --> 00:41:09,397 What did happen with me is I became fairly independent. 610 00:41:09,432 --> 00:41:11,917 The reason being I think they traveled a lot. 611 00:41:14,851 --> 00:41:16,232 Told you don't chew my laces. 612 00:41:18,372 --> 00:41:19,235 Stupid girl. 613 00:41:22,203 --> 00:41:23,342 Bailey, come here. 614 00:41:23,377 --> 00:41:25,344 [Dr. Watsa] We don't meet that often. 615 00:41:25,379 --> 00:41:27,692 Say once in 10 days or something. 616 00:41:27,726 --> 00:41:31,419 The visits are very short and brief. They come and go. 617 00:41:31,454 --> 00:41:34,422 He's quite occupied in his work, 618 00:41:34,457 --> 00:41:37,287 and, generally, I'm occupied in my work. 619 00:41:37,736 --> 00:41:39,255 So there's not much to... 620 00:41:40,912 --> 00:41:43,224 I mean, talk about, in a way. 621 00:41:53,062 --> 00:41:54,546 Okay, well, see you. 622 00:41:55,720 --> 00:41:56,790 Take care. 623 00:42:03,590 --> 00:42:05,453 [Dr. Watsa] Why don't you go down in the lift? 624 00:42:05,488 --> 00:42:06,938 No, I need some exercise. 625 00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:14,808 [whining] 626 00:42:15,740 --> 00:42:17,327 See how she misses. 627 00:42:17,776 --> 00:42:18,950 Come here. 628 00:42:20,641 --> 00:42:21,711 Come here. 629 00:42:21,746 --> 00:42:22,781 Poochie. 630 00:42:22,816 --> 00:42:24,093 Naughty girl. 631 00:42:25,473 --> 00:42:26,440 Go! 632 00:42:27,821 --> 00:42:28,994 Bailey! 633 00:42:31,169 --> 00:42:34,241 Let's see if there's any mail come in now. 634 00:42:34,275 --> 00:42:35,656 I answered all the mail in the morning. 635 00:42:45,459 --> 00:42:46,598 [seagulls squawking] 636 00:42:58,196 --> 00:43:00,992 [Dr. Watsa] "My neighbor is a married woman and very hot. 637 00:43:01,026 --> 00:43:04,478 "They dry their clothes on the common railing between our apartment flat. 638 00:43:04,512 --> 00:43:08,102 I saw her underwear drying on the railing, 639 00:43:08,137 --> 00:43:09,621 and could not resist myself. 640 00:43:09,656 --> 00:43:11,968 I was stealing the underwear when she caught me. 641 00:43:12,003 --> 00:43:13,936 She has complained to her husband about me. 642 00:43:13,970 --> 00:43:16,455 He is threatening to lodge a police complaint. 643 00:43:16,490 --> 00:43:19,493 But he cannot get me arrested for fantasizing 644 00:43:19,527 --> 00:43:22,289 about his wife, because my fantasies are mine. 645 00:43:22,323 --> 00:43:23,531 How do I deal with the husband?" 646 00:43:26,051 --> 00:43:28,329 "Stop your thinking about her underwear. 647 00:43:28,364 --> 00:43:32,955 Meet the husband, apologize to him, and promise never to do it again. 648 00:43:32,989 --> 00:43:37,373 Avoid any further police action. Stealing is not fantasy." 649 00:43:39,686 --> 00:43:40,652 He stole the thing. 650 00:43:42,067 --> 00:43:43,828 He still thinks he's okay. 651 00:43:58,049 --> 00:43:59,257 [horn honking] 652 00:44:06,713 --> 00:44:07,403 [in English] Okay? 653 00:44:08,576 --> 00:44:11,338 Well, I know that Dr. Watsa is known to be one of the 654 00:44:11,372 --> 00:44:16,032 key leaders in the field of sexuality education, family planning. 655 00:44:16,067 --> 00:44:19,829 I'd like to think that maybe I am part of 656 00:44:19,864 --> 00:44:22,867 the sexuality education brigade. 657 00:44:23,419 --> 00:44:24,523 Is there a brigade? 658 00:44:24,558 --> 00:44:26,077 [laughs] 659 00:44:26,111 --> 00:44:27,388 I think a very tiny one. 660 00:44:31,876 --> 00:44:35,362 [in English] I've tried to do it now on a voluntary basis. 661 00:44:35,396 --> 00:44:39,435 Whoever wants me, I'm happy to go and talk to their kids about sex. 662 00:44:39,469 --> 00:44:40,263 [chuckles] 663 00:44:44,578 --> 00:44:45,890 [all laughing] 664 00:44:51,412 --> 00:44:53,898 [Munshi] Most of our sessions start off with a lot of giggles, 665 00:44:53,932 --> 00:44:57,384 and children looking here and there and everything, but... 666 00:44:57,418 --> 00:45:01,043 [in English] If you're able to keep a straight face for the first 10 minutes... 667 00:45:01,077 --> 00:45:03,079 [all laughing] 668 00:45:03,114 --> 00:45:06,738 they realize that this is actually something they want to talk about. 669 00:45:06,773 --> 00:45:09,223 If you say the word, "Penis," once, twice, thrice, 670 00:45:09,258 --> 00:45:11,294 by the fourth or fifth time, it's just another word. 671 00:45:16,437 --> 00:45:18,577 [in English] Eighty percent of the questions are always the same 672 00:45:18,612 --> 00:45:19,475 and they're so basic. 673 00:45:38,356 --> 00:45:40,151 Okay, not mouth and nose and ears and all. 674 00:45:40,185 --> 00:45:41,531 [boy] Three. [girl] Five. 675 00:45:41,980 --> 00:45:43,154 Five. 676 00:45:43,810 --> 00:45:45,156 What about boys? 677 00:45:45,190 --> 00:45:46,329 -Three. -Three. 678 00:45:47,952 --> 00:45:49,263 I don't know. 679 00:45:49,298 --> 00:45:50,471 So girls have three openings. 680 00:46:18,499 --> 00:46:19,569 [girl] Vagina. 681 00:46:32,686 --> 00:46:34,688 [Munshi] Everything that's happening has its own limitations. 682 00:46:37,070 --> 00:46:40,694 I can have a very open discussion, but it's just those 20 kids over there 683 00:46:40,728 --> 00:46:42,006 that I'm able to meet one time, you know? 684 00:46:42,869 --> 00:46:44,974 How many schools can I go to, 685 00:46:45,009 --> 00:46:48,702 or can an independent educator or even an NGO, reach? 686 00:46:50,014 --> 00:46:52,706 Realistically, the school seems to me to be 687 00:46:52,740 --> 00:46:54,432 the best place where you can do something like this. 688 00:47:05,408 --> 00:47:06,720 Oh, you're already here? 689 00:47:06,754 --> 00:47:09,861 -Good morning. -Morning, how are you? Sorry. 690 00:47:09,896 --> 00:47:12,208 I didn't want to disturb you. Good morning. 691 00:47:12,243 --> 00:47:13,554 -How are you doing? -Good, great. 692 00:47:14,279 --> 00:47:15,625 There's a lot of... 693 00:47:16,074 --> 00:47:17,869 Um... 694 00:47:17,904 --> 00:47:21,355 What should I say? Resistance, when it comes to school authorities 695 00:47:21,390 --> 00:47:22,874 in terms of, you know... 696 00:47:22,909 --> 00:47:24,393 [Dr. Watsa] What difficulties have you found there? 697 00:47:24,427 --> 00:47:28,190 Very recently, I was asked to conduct a session with some teachers. 698 00:47:28,224 --> 00:47:32,021 And the day before, I sent her my slides. 699 00:47:32,056 --> 00:47:33,885 But I think that when she opened the slides in the morning, 700 00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:35,542 she got a shock, 701 00:47:35,576 --> 00:47:39,235 and I had this panicked call, early in the morning, saying. 702 00:47:39,270 --> 00:47:42,549 "But, ma'am, our ladies will be very uncomfortable." 703 00:47:42,583 --> 00:47:44,896 -Yeah. -So I had to tell her, 704 00:47:44,931 --> 00:47:47,623 "You have to just trust me and let me handle this, 705 00:47:47,657 --> 00:47:49,245 let me come there and talk to you." 706 00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:53,215 I think, still, many people have the old style of doing things. 707 00:47:53,249 --> 00:47:54,423 So there's a conflict. 708 00:47:54,457 --> 00:47:57,115 I am finding that, every year, 709 00:47:57,150 --> 00:48:01,085 younger people are now going in for sexual intercourse. 710 00:48:01,119 --> 00:48:02,741 Formerly, it was all like touching, kissing, 711 00:48:02,776 --> 00:48:04,122 and all that was all right. 712 00:48:04,157 --> 00:48:07,401 But now, they go all the way, as they say. 713 00:48:07,436 --> 00:48:09,748 Even 15-year-old and 16 years, 714 00:48:09,783 --> 00:48:12,579 they want to know about sexual intercourse and all that. 715 00:48:12,613 --> 00:48:14,788 -How many times can you do it a week? -Oh, yeah. 716 00:48:14,822 --> 00:48:16,963 -All these questions come up now, no? -Yes, yes. 717 00:48:16,997 --> 00:48:18,688 Has any question embarrassed you? 718 00:48:19,517 --> 00:48:22,278 -Not anymore. [laughs] -[Dr. Watsa] No? 719 00:48:22,313 --> 00:48:24,763 Initially maybe, but, yeah. 720 00:48:24,798 --> 00:48:27,283 Because you're now a hardened educator. 721 00:48:27,318 --> 00:48:29,320 But really speaking, 722 00:48:29,354 --> 00:48:31,943 do you think that what we're doing is the right thing? 723 00:48:31,978 --> 00:48:37,431 I mean, like giving sex education to the young? 724 00:48:37,466 --> 00:48:41,470 And minusing the parents out of this whole exercise? 725 00:48:41,504 --> 00:48:45,129 Yes, it's a case of something being better than nothing, sadly. 726 00:48:45,163 --> 00:48:46,958 But... 727 00:48:46,993 --> 00:48:48,960 But that can cause trouble, no? 728 00:48:48,995 --> 00:48:50,548 Uh... [laughs] 729 00:49:08,393 --> 00:49:10,395 [Pratiba] Unfortunately, this takes years. 730 00:49:12,018 --> 00:49:13,985 I'm still going to the court for my complaints 731 00:49:14,020 --> 00:49:15,745 filed in 2004 and 2005. 732 00:49:22,373 --> 00:49:24,996 I really don't know what's wrong with me. [laughs] 733 00:49:25,031 --> 00:49:27,171 If you call it being something wrong. 734 00:49:27,895 --> 00:49:29,345 [humming] 735 00:49:31,209 --> 00:49:33,556 I'm a very restless person. 736 00:49:33,591 --> 00:49:36,007 You can see that from my body language, I think, 737 00:49:36,042 --> 00:49:39,045 and the speed at which I talk. I'm a very restless person. 738 00:49:39,079 --> 00:49:42,048 My mother tells me, "Do you like to live alone?" 739 00:49:42,082 --> 00:49:44,360 I tell her, "I never live alone. Understand that. 740 00:49:44,395 --> 00:49:47,018 "There's no time to live alone. I'm busy doing so many things." 741 00:50:03,586 --> 00:50:06,865 The Ask the Sexpert case. 742 00:50:06,900 --> 00:50:09,385 the FIR was registered, the case has been filed, 743 00:50:09,420 --> 00:50:11,560 but it has not yet come up for hearing. 744 00:50:11,594 --> 00:50:13,527 It's black and white in law. 745 00:50:13,562 --> 00:50:17,704 We've gone with an appeal saying that a law has been violated, 746 00:50:17,738 --> 00:50:20,396 and it's being constantly violated, and the court needs to intervene. 747 00:50:20,431 --> 00:50:23,261 And that's the reason why the court took cognizance of it. 748 00:50:23,296 --> 00:50:25,263 The judge will say, "This is an informative article. 749 00:50:25,298 --> 00:50:30,096 This is not something where, per se, sex is being depicted. 750 00:50:30,130 --> 00:50:32,546 In fact, he's trying to help out youngsters 751 00:50:32,581 --> 00:50:35,894 and find out what is the problem, what is not the problem." 752 00:50:35,929 --> 00:50:39,553 It's very sad that 753 00:50:39,588 --> 00:50:41,935 these things are happening every day. 754 00:50:41,969 --> 00:50:43,626 What can you do? 755 00:50:43,661 --> 00:50:47,216 If you go to high court, they'll say, "File a complaint with the magistrate." 756 00:50:47,251 --> 00:50:48,907 Hmm. 757 00:50:48,942 --> 00:50:53,740 Magistrate's court will take minimum seven to eight years. 758 00:50:53,774 --> 00:50:56,467 -To decide the issue. -Decide, yeah. 759 00:50:56,501 --> 00:50:59,090 And by the time the matter will come up after seven, eight years, they'll say, 760 00:50:59,125 --> 00:51:01,817 "Nothing survives. Everybody has forgotten." 761 00:51:01,851 --> 00:51:05,096 The sensibilities of people are going down. 762 00:51:05,131 --> 00:51:06,028 What can you and me do? 763 00:51:13,139 --> 00:51:14,312 I'm 43 today. 764 00:51:16,452 --> 00:51:20,767 When I was 23, the society was much different. 765 00:51:20,801 --> 00:51:24,805 In a civilized society, you have to have morals which are followed. 766 00:51:32,296 --> 00:51:34,953 [male newscaster] Several hotels in Mumbai's Aksa Beach area 767 00:51:34,988 --> 00:51:38,164 were raided late on Saturday. 768 00:51:38,198 --> 00:51:42,513 Forty couples were booked for indecency in public. 769 00:51:42,547 --> 00:51:44,135 [female newscaster] Ghaziabad police has come down 770 00:51:44,170 --> 00:51:46,793 heavily on young lovers in public places. 771 00:51:46,827 --> 00:51:48,657 The crackdown has been holding up couples 772 00:51:48,691 --> 00:51:51,142 and punishing them on the spot. 773 00:51:51,177 --> 00:51:53,662 The cops say this kind of humiliation is the only way 774 00:51:53,696 --> 00:51:56,147 to ensure security for women 775 00:51:56,182 --> 00:51:58,874 against men, who harass them and take advantage of them. 776 00:52:20,861 --> 00:52:23,692 [in English] Aditi Mittal is back. She's a stand up comedian and writer. 777 00:52:23,726 --> 00:52:25,728 This is the most natural human impulse, 778 00:52:25,763 --> 00:52:27,489 is to want to interact with the opposite sex. 779 00:52:27,523 --> 00:52:29,180 You know, you talking 780 00:52:29,215 --> 00:52:32,701 like it's an ethical responsibility of a parent state. 781 00:52:32,735 --> 00:52:34,047 This is not it. 782 00:52:34,081 --> 00:52:35,359 And nowhere in the Constitution does it say... 783 00:52:37,706 --> 00:52:39,190 [in English] With sex, everyone's had it. 784 00:52:39,225 --> 00:52:42,366 Everyone's heard about it, everyone's sneakily read books. 785 00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:45,369 And it blows my mind that we're still doing it sneakily, 786 00:52:46,232 --> 00:52:48,544 that we're still so terrified. 787 00:52:55,620 --> 00:53:00,073 [Dr. Watsa] I feel very sorry for the young girls who had gone out. 788 00:53:00,107 --> 00:53:02,558 They must not have told their parents and so on 789 00:53:02,593 --> 00:53:04,250 and now to be caught like this. 790 00:53:04,284 --> 00:53:07,805 The police committed a serious breach of privacy. 791 00:53:20,438 --> 00:53:24,235 Some years and years ago, this whole place was sandy. 792 00:53:28,584 --> 00:53:29,827 This has become lovers' lane. 793 00:53:33,175 --> 00:53:35,798 In between cars, they put their bikes. 794 00:53:37,662 --> 00:53:40,113 From upstairs, you can see any number of them. 795 00:53:44,186 --> 00:53:45,256 Lovers. 796 00:54:19,463 --> 00:54:21,534 [Dr. Indira Kapoor] It was a love marriage of 55 years. 797 00:54:23,467 --> 00:54:26,953 And what was great about them it was an equal footing marriage. 798 00:54:26,987 --> 00:54:30,681 They were more of friends than husband and wife, typical Indian marriage. 799 00:54:30,715 --> 00:54:33,131 They would have arguments, 800 00:54:33,166 --> 00:54:35,893 but she will fight equal level, like if he did. 801 00:54:40,484 --> 00:54:43,210 She would sit at the back of a lecture or something like that, 802 00:54:43,245 --> 00:54:44,488 and then say, you know, 803 00:54:44,522 --> 00:54:47,456 "You didn't do that well today," or something like that. 804 00:54:47,491 --> 00:54:50,632 And would say you missed out this or that. 805 00:54:50,666 --> 00:54:53,186 She was quite savvy on all those things. 806 00:54:53,220 --> 00:54:57,501 She had sort of got into the field in this thing. 807 00:55:03,369 --> 00:55:05,336 It was very hard for him, 808 00:55:05,371 --> 00:55:08,235 because he was totally dependent on her for everything. 809 00:55:08,270 --> 00:55:10,341 Even simple things like taking out his clothes, 810 00:55:10,376 --> 00:55:13,240 doing his packing, you know. I mean, simple things. 811 00:55:13,275 --> 00:55:16,243 But she had really, really spoiled him. 812 00:55:16,278 --> 00:55:18,867 And he was quite at sea. 813 00:55:31,224 --> 00:55:33,191 He's handled it well. 814 00:55:33,226 --> 00:55:36,712 And, in fact, now, he likes to be on his own. 815 00:55:54,281 --> 00:55:56,698 [Deepa] How many doorbells? My God. [Dr. Watsa] How many? 816 00:55:56,732 --> 00:55:58,527 -Every 10 minutes, there's a doorbell. -I know. 817 00:55:58,562 --> 00:56:00,080 [Deepa] Come here. Bailey, come. 818 00:56:01,427 --> 00:56:02,462 Bailey, come here, baba. 819 00:56:05,258 --> 00:56:07,950 We have arguments about this every time we meet. 820 00:56:10,090 --> 00:56:10,988 Every time we meet. 821 00:56:12,265 --> 00:56:14,543 Strange people coming to the house. 822 00:56:14,578 --> 00:56:17,581 Some of them I would not even entertain, honestly speaking. 823 00:56:23,449 --> 00:56:27,142 [Deepa] The fact is that he's 91 plus, he's frail now. 824 00:56:28,971 --> 00:56:31,284 Let's help these people, no? 825 00:56:31,318 --> 00:56:35,253 And we're always very concerned that somebody may come and actually, 826 00:56:35,288 --> 00:56:38,015 not be happy with the advice he or she's been given and attack him. 827 00:56:38,636 --> 00:56:39,637 What's happening? 828 00:56:39,672 --> 00:56:41,259 But he just won't listen. 829 00:56:41,294 --> 00:56:43,745 [doorbell rings] 830 00:56:43,779 --> 00:56:46,299 [Deepa] People are walking all over the house, examining things. 831 00:56:50,303 --> 00:56:53,340 [Gautam] I've told him a hundred times over that if you take an appointment, 832 00:56:53,375 --> 00:56:55,619 take the person's number, take some details. 833 00:56:57,137 --> 00:56:58,518 But he'll see them. This is the whole problem. 834 00:56:59,864 --> 00:57:01,694 -How are you? My name is Watsa. -Hi, Watsa. 835 00:57:05,145 --> 00:57:06,630 [in English] Hello? Yeah, speaking. 836 00:57:07,976 --> 00:57:10,116 -[cell phone rings] -Oh, oh, that's mine. 837 00:57:10,150 --> 00:57:12,463 He himself says he finds it now difficult to speak 838 00:57:12,498 --> 00:57:15,604 for more than 10 minutes or 15 minutes. 839 00:57:15,639 --> 00:57:17,157 I say what is the need? 840 00:57:17,192 --> 00:57:19,953 You see people, last appointment you finish at 1:00. 841 00:57:19,988 --> 00:57:22,128 I can understand you're passionate about it, 842 00:57:22,162 --> 00:57:24,026 but then you don't go over the top. 843 00:57:24,061 --> 00:57:25,890 You need to draw a line on what you're doing. 844 00:57:29,169 --> 00:57:30,688 [Dr. Watsa] There's nothing to retire from. 845 00:57:30,723 --> 00:57:33,311 I mean, if one person comes to you 846 00:57:33,346 --> 00:57:37,488 and wants to discuss their problem and it's very intimate, 847 00:57:37,523 --> 00:57:40,629 they can't discuss it with their family 848 00:57:40,664 --> 00:57:43,494 or they don't like to go to their own family doctor and so on. 849 00:57:44,668 --> 00:57:47,084 I mean, they want somebody who could 850 00:57:49,673 --> 00:57:53,746 vibe with them also, and make them feel comfortable. 851 00:58:01,408 --> 00:58:04,204 [girl] I'm 18 years old. And I'm from Mumbai. 852 00:58:05,274 --> 00:58:08,657 I started... Can I say the word? 853 00:58:08,692 --> 00:58:11,660 I started masturbating when I was 16. 854 00:58:11,695 --> 00:58:14,525 I used to use a water pump. 855 00:58:14,560 --> 00:58:17,355 Then I spoke to this friend of mine. 856 00:58:17,390 --> 00:58:21,187 She was a little taken aback. Like, "How do you do that? 857 00:58:21,221 --> 00:58:23,534 "Don't you get infections or something like that?" 858 00:58:23,569 --> 00:58:26,917 When you talk about something like sex or masturbation, 859 00:58:26,951 --> 00:58:28,435 it's really difficult to open up, 860 00:58:28,470 --> 00:58:32,439 And especially for girls. You could get slut shamed. 861 00:58:32,474 --> 00:58:34,683 I've been reading it for a long time, the column. 862 00:58:34,718 --> 00:58:35,615 So I wrote in. 863 00:58:37,134 --> 00:58:39,377 He told me that it was safe, 864 00:58:39,412 --> 00:58:44,037 as long as I didn't insert it into the orifice. 865 00:58:44,072 --> 00:58:47,903 I was pretty happy because, in two days, it got answered, 866 00:58:47,938 --> 00:58:48,766 and I was kind of worried. 867 00:58:50,250 --> 00:58:54,116 "I'm a 21 year old boy, and I'm gay. 868 00:58:54,151 --> 00:58:58,224 "My parents want me to get married and even I don't wish to be gay, 869 00:58:58,258 --> 00:59:00,709 "as gays are not accepted in society. 870 00:59:00,744 --> 00:59:03,919 "Is there some treatment that can help me become straight? 871 00:59:03,954 --> 00:59:06,404 "I've heard that psychiatrists may help." 872 00:59:06,439 --> 00:59:08,303 Frankly, you will yourself decide 873 00:59:08,337 --> 00:59:12,065 what will make you happier in your sex life. 874 00:59:12,100 --> 00:59:17,415 If you decide for gay, take courage and speak to your parents, 875 00:59:17,450 --> 00:59:19,590 but before that, check whether you are bisexual. 876 00:59:22,455 --> 00:59:24,250 "I must say that I'm really surprised 877 00:59:24,284 --> 00:59:27,253 "in the way you answer people's questions on sex. 878 00:59:27,287 --> 00:59:30,739 "I do understand you are a specialist in that area, 879 00:59:30,774 --> 00:59:33,500 "but that does not mean you encourage people to commit sin. 880 00:59:33,535 --> 00:59:36,469 "It is clearly understood from your advice 881 00:59:36,503 --> 00:59:39,610 "that it is all right to have relationship outside marriage. 882 00:59:39,645 --> 00:59:42,095 "You are directly encouraging immorality, adultery, 883 00:59:42,130 --> 00:59:44,788 "promiscuity, premarital sex. 884 00:59:44,822 --> 00:59:49,482 "Making the already sinful world to sink even deeper 885 00:59:49,516 --> 00:59:52,002 "into the evil pit with no sense of godliness, 886 00:59:52,036 --> 00:59:53,797 "dignity or value based system." 887 00:59:55,661 --> 00:59:56,627 I think we'll stop there. 888 01:00:01,667 --> 01:00:03,185 -Hello! -[woman] Hi. 889 01:00:04,221 --> 01:00:06,326 The bell doesn't ring, is it? 890 01:00:06,361 --> 01:00:08,466 Come, come, come. My bell doesn't ring? 891 01:00:08,501 --> 01:00:09,640 [laughs] 892 01:00:09,675 --> 01:00:11,193 Many other things don't work. 893 01:00:11,987 --> 01:00:14,645 -Like me. [chuckles] -I know. 894 01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:17,199 Mini, for so many years you've been doing this. 895 01:00:18,028 --> 01:00:20,340 You don't 896 01:00:20,375 --> 01:00:22,653 suffer from what they call a burnout? 897 01:00:22,688 --> 01:00:25,000 Mini's cases vary so much. 898 01:00:25,035 --> 01:00:26,968 There's such a lot of variation 899 01:00:27,002 --> 01:00:29,833 And second point is Mini loves his job. 900 01:00:29,867 --> 01:00:32,663 Like if you phone Mini during one of those sessions, you've had it. 901 01:00:32,698 --> 01:00:36,184 He's not going to answer you however urgent you may sound. 902 01:00:36,218 --> 01:00:39,359 But you can get a burnout. So what do you do about it? 903 01:00:40,706 --> 01:00:42,328 What do you suggest should be done? 904 01:00:42,362 --> 01:00:43,812 Write a book. Like you did. 905 01:00:43,847 --> 01:00:45,676 [laughs] 906 01:00:45,711 --> 01:00:46,746 What's the title? 907 01:00:48,058 --> 01:00:49,818 I'm Normal. 908 01:00:49,853 --> 01:00:51,820 -It's Normal. -It's Normal. 909 01:00:51,855 --> 01:00:54,547 But why are you looking so sullen about it? 910 01:00:54,581 --> 01:00:58,827 I thought you would be ecstatic that your book has finally come out. 911 01:00:58,862 --> 01:01:01,416 Excited, it takes more to excite Mini. 912 01:01:01,450 --> 01:01:03,521 -[laughs] -He's got so used to it. 913 01:01:03,556 --> 01:01:05,558 He's got so used to what 914 01:01:05,592 --> 01:01:07,387 excites people normally. [laughs] 915 01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:11,702 [both] My penis is small. 916 01:01:11,737 --> 01:01:13,704 I think that question has already been dealt with. 917 01:01:13,739 --> 01:01:14,878 Is it? 918 01:01:14,912 --> 01:01:16,362 Do you want to retain it? 919 01:01:16,396 --> 01:01:19,192 -Or do you want to... -I think retain it. 920 01:01:19,227 --> 01:01:21,850 [Vaishali Mathur] I had been looking for somebody who would do a 921 01:01:21,885 --> 01:01:22,886 sex book for us 922 01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:24,750 and I got super excited. 923 01:01:24,784 --> 01:01:26,855 I was, like, here's the person who should be writing the book. 924 01:01:26,890 --> 01:01:28,615 Then I flew down. 925 01:01:28,650 --> 01:01:31,066 I said I have to come here and convince him to do this book. 926 01:01:31,101 --> 01:01:32,136 This question 927 01:01:33,620 --> 01:01:36,589 which is... I don't know. To me, it was very offensive. 928 01:01:36,623 --> 01:01:37,728 Do you want to take it up? 929 01:01:37,763 --> 01:01:40,731 "During sex, can a husband and wife eat or drink..." 930 01:01:40,766 --> 01:01:43,251 Yeah, I was also a little... 931 01:01:43,285 --> 01:01:45,874 Urine, a lot of people do, but... 932 01:01:45,909 --> 01:01:47,565 Stool certainly... 933 01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:49,429 But I think it's so unusual that... Leave it. 934 01:01:50,120 --> 01:01:51,121 I'll leave it? 935 01:01:51,777 --> 01:01:53,571 Okay. 936 01:01:53,606 --> 01:01:55,919 Just... I was just grossed out completely 937 01:01:55,953 --> 01:01:57,299 when I saw this. 938 01:01:58,093 --> 01:01:59,405 This is... 939 01:01:59,439 --> 01:02:04,065 "If I smear a male dog's semen on my... 940 01:02:04,099 --> 01:02:06,895 "...when having sex with a woman, what kind of baby will be born?" 941 01:02:06,930 --> 01:02:08,414 "Dog-human"... 942 01:02:08,448 --> 01:02:11,417 And I've said it will come out bow-wow, no? 943 01:02:11,451 --> 01:02:13,419 -First check if the dog will oblige. -[laughs] 944 01:02:13,453 --> 01:02:15,283 [Vaishali] Everytime I try to get intimate with her, 945 01:02:15,317 --> 01:02:16,491 I hear her ex's voice 946 01:02:16,525 --> 01:02:18,113 coming from her navel 947 01:02:18,148 --> 01:02:20,288 and asking me to get lost. 948 01:02:20,322 --> 01:02:21,910 I have done some research and concluded 949 01:02:21,945 --> 01:02:25,776 that her navel is a portal to her ex. [laughs] 950 01:02:25,811 --> 01:02:28,779 You have to be thinking a lot in order to get to the point 951 01:02:28,814 --> 01:02:30,367 where the navel starts talking to you. 952 01:02:31,955 --> 01:02:33,508 So, Dr. Watsa's response is 953 01:02:33,542 --> 01:02:35,510 you need to visit a psychiatrist. 954 01:02:35,544 --> 01:02:37,443 Please let me know your research technique. 955 01:02:37,477 --> 01:02:39,790 Shall try talking to my navel. 956 01:02:39,825 --> 01:02:42,517 Tell your friend to tell her navel friend to get lost. 957 01:02:42,551 --> 01:02:44,968 [woman] The only way to deal with it is with humor. 958 01:02:45,002 --> 01:02:46,486 Absurd questions. 959 01:02:47,556 --> 01:02:50,801 The joke is always that none of us 960 01:02:50,836 --> 01:02:52,320 are immaculate conceptions 961 01:02:52,354 --> 01:02:54,840 and how did we have a population of billions 962 01:02:54,874 --> 01:02:56,945 if we were not doing it? 963 01:02:56,980 --> 01:03:00,155 People think that I have made up all these questions 964 01:03:00,190 --> 01:03:02,813 Yeah... For titillation. 965 01:03:02,848 --> 01:03:06,541 I couldn't even think of the number of things they've thought about 966 01:03:06,575 --> 01:03:07,369 but anyway... 967 01:03:16,896 --> 01:03:20,141 On this page we are done. 968 01:03:20,175 --> 01:03:21,659 My wife has a strange habit 969 01:03:21,694 --> 01:03:23,178 of urinating a little 970 01:03:23,213 --> 01:03:25,491 in the tea that she serves to guests. 971 01:03:25,525 --> 01:03:27,493 She says it gives her a kick. 972 01:03:27,527 --> 01:03:30,496 Even though I was shocked at first, 973 01:03:30,530 --> 01:03:32,187 I have also started enjoying it. 974 01:03:32,222 --> 01:03:34,845 In fact, even I urinate a little 975 01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,054 when I make tea for our guests. 976 01:03:37,089 --> 01:03:38,711 Is it safe to continue doing this? 977 01:03:40,195 --> 01:03:42,025 That's a weird question. 978 01:03:42,059 --> 01:03:43,889 How do you answer a question like that? 979 01:03:43,923 --> 01:03:44,924 -I mean... Lunatics. -[laughs] 980 01:03:53,450 --> 01:03:55,452 [man] I was very happy when I turned vegan 981 01:03:56,073 --> 01:03:57,523 in 2007. 982 01:03:57,557 --> 01:03:59,594 You know, I was free from many, many... 983 01:03:59,628 --> 01:04:01,527 -Ailments. -Limitations 984 01:04:01,561 --> 01:04:03,184 and ailments. 985 01:04:03,218 --> 01:04:05,600 My sinus was off. 986 01:04:05,634 --> 01:04:08,879 [chuckles] Actually, I became over enthusiastic 987 01:04:08,914 --> 01:04:12,193 and in the last 8 months, I went a step further. 988 01:04:12,227 --> 01:04:12,952 I became a raw foodist. 989 01:04:14,436 --> 01:04:16,024 -You did what? -Raw foodist. 990 01:04:16,059 --> 01:04:18,371 -Raw food. -Within six months 991 01:04:18,406 --> 01:04:19,925 -my capacity was over. -[phone ringing] 992 01:04:19,959 --> 01:04:21,236 -Please take the call. -Excuse me. 993 01:04:22,237 --> 01:04:23,445 [man sighs] 994 01:04:27,277 --> 01:04:29,727 [man] From last 8 months, 995 01:04:29,762 --> 01:04:31,591 there has been a significant decrease. 996 01:04:32,420 --> 01:04:33,904 Not in the desire 997 01:04:33,939 --> 01:04:35,457 but the capacity. 998 01:04:35,492 --> 01:04:36,907 The penis doesn't stiffen up. 999 01:04:37,943 --> 01:04:39,427 It doesn't penetrate. 1000 01:04:39,772 --> 01:04:40,911 Hmm. 1001 01:04:40,946 --> 01:04:44,915 And my wife is left with unhappiness. 1002 01:04:44,950 --> 01:04:47,090 And you don't do masturbation, do you, in between? 1003 01:04:47,124 --> 01:04:48,954 -I do it very regularly. -You do? 1004 01:04:48,988 --> 01:04:50,265 I'm addicted to porn sites. 1005 01:04:50,300 --> 01:04:52,095 I need to release myself 1006 01:04:52,129 --> 01:04:53,475 -once every day. -Okay. 1007 01:04:53,510 --> 01:04:55,650 When I go to the office, the first thing I do is that. 1008 01:04:55,684 --> 01:04:57,755 And then only I feel like working. 1009 01:04:57,790 --> 01:05:00,586 Right. In the office you do masturbation? 1010 01:05:00,620 --> 01:05:03,934 [stammers] It's my own office, my own cabin. 1011 01:05:03,969 --> 01:05:05,660 -I see. -I see porn sites. 1012 01:05:05,694 --> 01:05:06,695 I read some stories. 1013 01:05:07,351 --> 01:05:09,319 Then I masturbate. 1014 01:05:09,353 --> 01:05:12,115 Actually, with increase in age, the difference between 1015 01:05:12,149 --> 01:05:14,082 the husband and the wife has a little bit widened. 1016 01:05:14,117 --> 01:05:16,774 -Widened. -Uh... 1017 01:05:16,809 --> 01:05:18,535 I'm into business, she's into household. 1018 01:05:19,812 --> 01:05:23,333 She is not vegan. 1019 01:05:23,367 --> 01:05:25,956 You see, I'm the happiest person in my group. 1020 01:05:25,991 --> 01:05:28,131 -Very good. -I'm the luckiest person in my group. 1021 01:05:28,165 --> 01:05:29,304 Friend circle. 1022 01:05:29,822 --> 01:05:31,375 I am also 1023 01:05:33,308 --> 01:05:35,310 most pampered boy in my family. 1024 01:05:37,002 --> 01:05:38,624 The limitation is that 1025 01:05:38,658 --> 01:05:40,660 everything is decided by my father. 1026 01:05:40,695 --> 01:05:44,147 Everywhere, my father has got 95% control. 1027 01:05:44,181 --> 01:05:46,632 -Oh. -I'm having barely 5% control. 1028 01:05:46,666 --> 01:05:48,013 He takes a call... And it is, uh, 1029 01:05:48,047 --> 01:05:49,669 surprisingly he's 100% right 1030 01:05:49,704 --> 01:05:51,809 and, surprisingly, I'm 100% wrong. 1031 01:05:51,844 --> 01:05:53,673 I feel I'm powerless 1032 01:05:53,708 --> 01:05:54,812 on the back of my mind. 1033 01:05:54,847 --> 01:05:56,676 So you think all these factors 1034 01:05:56,711 --> 01:05:58,471 are affecting your erection? 1035 01:05:58,506 --> 01:06:01,992 I believe it is affecting my confidence 1036 01:06:02,027 --> 01:06:03,166 on the back of my mind. 1037 01:06:03,200 --> 01:06:04,650 But when you don't have confidence, 1038 01:06:04,684 --> 01:06:06,686 that can also reflect back on your 1039 01:06:06,721 --> 01:06:08,205 -genital system, no? -Yes. 1040 01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:10,863 Whenever I bring up a topic 1041 01:06:10,897 --> 01:06:13,486 -of fancy dressing, or... -Yeah. 1042 01:06:13,521 --> 01:06:16,041 Then she immediately throws back... 1043 01:06:16,075 --> 01:06:17,835 -Then, what will happen? -Then, out of... 1044 01:06:17,870 --> 01:06:21,218 No, no. Out of all six brothers' wives, 1045 01:06:21,253 --> 01:06:22,668 she has been the most modern. 1046 01:06:22,702 --> 01:06:25,015 Right. You're doing a lot of comparison with everybody. 1047 01:06:25,050 --> 01:06:26,844 She's doing. 1048 01:06:26,879 --> 01:06:29,537 Okay. Have a look at this. Like this, see? 1049 01:06:29,571 --> 01:06:31,746 Take her legs on your shoulder 1050 01:06:31,780 --> 01:06:34,024 Even when I'm talking to you, 1051 01:06:34,059 --> 01:06:36,337 some ideas are coming to your mind and... 1052 01:06:36,371 --> 01:06:38,753 No. No erection is coming. 1053 01:06:38,787 --> 01:06:40,410 No, erection will not come now. 1054 01:06:40,444 --> 01:06:41,756 Yes, ideas I'm getting. 1055 01:06:43,551 --> 01:06:45,863 But... 1056 01:06:45,898 --> 01:06:49,695 Actually, you know, there has been a bit of conflict. 1057 01:06:49,729 --> 01:06:52,249 Her friends circle, there are four-five programs in three months. 1058 01:06:52,284 --> 01:06:53,630 And with my friends circle, zero programs. 1059 01:06:54,424 --> 01:06:56,426 Zero program. Then... 1060 01:06:56,460 --> 01:06:58,600 Fifth or sixth time, my head will go off. 1061 01:06:58,635 --> 01:07:00,223 "I'm not coming. You go alone." 1062 01:07:00,257 --> 01:07:02,087 -See, there's one thing. -Yeah. 1063 01:07:02,121 --> 01:07:04,054 You are able to identify 1064 01:07:04,089 --> 01:07:06,056 that there are a lot of these conflicts. 1065 01:07:06,091 --> 01:07:08,403 -Mmm-hmm. -Which are, in a way, 1066 01:07:10,405 --> 01:07:12,062 -not very mature. -Yeah, yeah. 1067 01:07:12,097 --> 01:07:14,064 -This is what a child would do. -Correct. 1068 01:07:14,099 --> 01:07:15,928 -So, you're not a child, but... -Yeah. 1069 01:07:15,962 --> 01:07:17,930 -That childlike attitude. -Yeah. 1070 01:07:19,276 --> 01:07:21,761 Think how you can always make yourself like an adult. 1071 01:07:21,796 --> 01:07:24,902 I'm just trying to settle down 1072 01:07:24,937 --> 01:07:26,111 because, you know, 1073 01:07:26,145 --> 01:07:28,389 you never think of these things 1074 01:07:28,423 --> 01:07:30,632 unless somebody inquires, you know? 1075 01:07:31,426 --> 01:07:32,669 And then you feel 1076 01:07:34,291 --> 01:07:35,775 you know, head turning... 1077 01:07:37,846 --> 01:07:40,746 There are some areas I wanted to know. 1078 01:07:40,780 --> 01:07:42,920 I wanted to engage a couple in, sort of, 1079 01:07:42,955 --> 01:07:44,439 some romantic... 1080 01:07:45,613 --> 01:07:47,132 -Situations. -Situations. 1081 01:07:47,166 --> 01:07:49,099 Not, I mean, not... 1082 01:07:49,134 --> 01:07:51,653 But if two couples together 1083 01:07:51,688 --> 01:07:53,276 can generate something, like, joint swimming. 1084 01:07:54,173 --> 01:07:55,761 You know, and, uh... 1085 01:07:55,795 --> 01:07:57,314 Yeah, but that's a difficult thing to do. 1086 01:07:57,349 --> 01:07:58,971 Yeah, I've to convince all of them. 1087 01:07:59,005 --> 01:08:00,662 -First, you do this. -First, I'll do this. 1088 01:08:00,697 --> 01:08:02,526 -Then we'll see. -Yeah, we'll see. 1089 01:08:03,286 --> 01:08:04,494 -Okay? -Yeah. 1090 01:08:07,324 --> 01:08:08,498 [man chuckles] 1091 01:08:09,533 --> 01:08:11,432 My God, we've grown up. 1092 01:08:11,466 --> 01:08:13,365 We're discussing these topics.[chuckles] 1093 01:08:28,173 --> 01:08:31,348 [Dr. Watsa] Every man wants to think he's a hero. 1094 01:08:32,177 --> 01:08:33,523 [horns honking] 1095 01:08:51,506 --> 01:08:52,749 Doctor, can a... 1096 01:08:54,199 --> 01:08:55,200 Can a young person read this? 1097 01:08:56,373 --> 01:08:57,305 [Dr. Watsa] Yeah, yeah. 1098 01:08:57,340 --> 01:08:58,686 Nineteen-20 years? 1099 01:08:58,720 --> 01:09:00,584 [Dr. Watsa] Oh, definitely. It's meant for them. 1100 01:09:01,413 --> 01:09:03,173 [laughing] 1101 01:09:03,208 --> 01:09:04,864 Tell me something nice to write. 1102 01:09:05,520 --> 01:09:06,728 [chuckles] 1103 01:09:06,763 --> 01:09:08,868 You should know. You're the funny man. 1104 01:09:13,356 --> 01:09:14,564 [woman] Hello? 1105 01:09:17,256 --> 01:09:20,052 Good evening, everyone. It's lovely to see a full house here. 1106 01:09:20,086 --> 01:09:22,330 Of course, I expected a full house because 1107 01:09:22,365 --> 01:09:25,195 it's Dr. Watsa. 1108 01:09:25,230 --> 01:09:30,200 So, are there any interesting anecdotes or stories from your patients 1109 01:09:30,235 --> 01:09:34,549 that you wish you could address in your column? 1110 01:09:34,584 --> 01:09:37,103 Is there anything that you can think of? 1111 01:09:37,138 --> 01:09:39,105 Well, I thought you'd ask me that question 1112 01:09:39,140 --> 01:09:41,211 and I sort of made a little note over there. 1113 01:09:41,246 --> 01:09:44,214 Maybe you could read it from there. 1114 01:09:44,249 --> 01:09:47,217 "I have a small penis and I can't seem to satisfy my girlfriend. 1115 01:09:47,252 --> 01:09:49,599 My astrologer has advised me to pull it every day. 1116 01:09:49,633 --> 01:09:53,258 for 15 minutes while reciting a prayer. 1117 01:09:53,292 --> 01:09:54,949 I have been doing this for a month 1118 01:09:54,983 --> 01:09:56,226 but it hasn't helped. 1119 01:09:56,261 --> 01:09:57,365 What should I do?" 1120 01:09:57,400 --> 01:09:58,573 [audience laughing] 1121 01:10:00,575 --> 01:10:02,577 "If he was right, most men would have a penis 1122 01:10:02,612 --> 01:10:03,716 hitting their knees." 1123 01:10:03,751 --> 01:10:05,891 [laughing] 1124 01:10:05,925 --> 01:10:07,927 "God doesn't help gullible, foolish men. 1125 01:10:07,962 --> 01:10:09,584 Go visit a sexpert instead 1126 01:10:09,619 --> 01:10:11,931 who can teach you the art of making love." 1127 01:10:11,966 --> 01:10:14,900 I'd like to throw the floor open to you guys. 1128 01:10:14,934 --> 01:10:18,938 Please come up and ask a question. The mic will be around. 1129 01:10:18,973 --> 01:10:20,561 Come on, guys. 1130 01:10:20,595 --> 01:10:22,735 Somebody needs to break the ice here. 1131 01:10:22,770 --> 01:10:23,943 Anyone with questions? 1132 01:10:26,670 --> 01:10:28,120 What is digital sex? 1133 01:10:29,190 --> 01:10:30,433 Using your fingers. 1134 01:10:31,468 --> 01:10:32,849 [laughing] 1135 01:10:38,303 --> 01:10:39,027 That's it! 1136 01:10:40,960 --> 01:10:42,307 Thank you so much. 1137 01:10:42,341 --> 01:10:46,414 Different castes have different sex power. 1138 01:10:46,449 --> 01:10:48,313 Different castes have different sex power? No, no, no. 1139 01:10:48,347 --> 01:10:51,937 Different castes have different power. 1140 01:10:51,971 --> 01:10:54,457 We'll sit down and talk about it after I've signed this. 1141 01:10:54,491 --> 01:10:56,286 I'm going to crash the queue 1142 01:10:56,321 --> 01:10:58,771 just to say congratulations 1143 01:10:58,806 --> 01:11:00,670 and I will call you and we shall meet. This week. 1144 01:11:00,704 --> 01:11:02,292 Yeah, you better. 1145 01:11:02,327 --> 01:11:04,674 -Of course, I have your autograph. -You've divorced me. 1146 01:11:04,708 --> 01:11:06,952 No, no. [laughs] 1147 01:11:06,986 --> 01:11:08,678 All the very best. 1148 01:11:08,712 --> 01:11:12,060 The power of sex depends upon the community. 1149 01:11:12,475 --> 01:11:14,960 Muslim has more power. 1150 01:11:14,994 --> 01:11:16,789 -Parsi has got more... -No, no, no. Nothing like that. 1151 01:11:16,824 --> 01:11:18,135 -You're taking him home? -Yes. 1152 01:11:18,170 --> 01:11:19,861 Let me have a picture with you. 1153 01:11:21,484 --> 01:11:25,039 Sex also depends upon the height of a woman or a man. 1154 01:11:26,040 --> 01:11:27,144 Or the size of... 1155 01:11:27,179 --> 01:11:29,319 -Of a woman. -No, no. Not at all. Not at all. 1156 01:11:29,354 --> 01:11:32,322 This is going to be very handy for me to read 1157 01:11:32,357 --> 01:11:36,499 -because my husband left me... -Oh. 1158 01:11:36,533 --> 01:11:39,053 Three-and-a-half years ago 1159 01:11:39,087 --> 01:11:42,505 when I was going through menopause. 1160 01:11:44,023 --> 01:11:46,647 Thank you very, very much. All the best. 1161 01:11:46,681 --> 01:11:48,821 The smaller the height of a... 1162 01:11:48,856 --> 01:11:50,858 -No, no, no. -Boy. Has got a very small... 1163 01:11:50,892 --> 01:11:52,377 Not at all. Not at all. 1164 01:11:53,723 --> 01:11:56,726 So the size and the height is not concerned at all? 1165 01:11:58,521 --> 01:11:59,522 Not at all. 1166 01:12:02,387 --> 01:12:05,079 If you can get the book, you read it. It will be a useful book for you. 1167 01:12:05,113 --> 01:12:06,114 Yeah. 1168 01:12:29,414 --> 01:12:30,932 [Dr. Watsa] Ignorance is profound sometimes. 1169 01:12:34,419 --> 01:12:36,766 What we are doing is like a drop in the ocean, literally. 1170 01:12:41,426 --> 01:12:42,772 [Pratiba singing in Hindi] 1171 01:13:00,479 --> 01:13:03,413 [Pratiba] Maybe it's just a drop in the huge ocean 1172 01:13:03,448 --> 01:13:06,416 but, in India, if you want to bring change, 1173 01:13:06,451 --> 01:13:08,625 you need to have lots and lots of patience. 1174 01:13:09,661 --> 01:13:11,248 Lots and lots of patience. 1175 01:13:11,283 --> 01:13:13,250 And especially if you're looking for a positive change, certainly. 1176 01:13:13,285 --> 01:13:14,010 [laughs] 1177 01:13:18,497 --> 01:13:20,430 It's been so many years. That's why I'm saying that now, 1178 01:13:20,465 --> 01:13:22,432 they're exhausted of questions also, 1179 01:13:22,467 --> 01:13:25,987 so, they've come down to pee in the tea, et cetera, et cetera. 1180 01:13:27,610 --> 01:13:30,026 [laughs] You're serving tea with pee! 1181 01:13:30,820 --> 01:13:31,993 And you're printing it. 1182 01:13:32,822 --> 01:13:34,789 I mean... [clicks tongue] 1183 01:13:34,824 --> 01:13:36,757 What's wrong with them? 1184 01:13:36,791 --> 01:13:39,932 So, the column is what it was. 1185 01:13:39,967 --> 01:13:42,038 The case is where it was. 1186 01:13:46,042 --> 01:13:48,769 [woman] Would you be interested to know if the column 1187 01:13:48,803 --> 01:13:50,943 has been of help to people? 1188 01:13:50,978 --> 01:13:53,670 For what? I'm not bothered about people's sexual health. 1189 01:13:53,705 --> 01:13:55,672 I'm not a sexpert like Mahinder Watsa. 1190 01:13:55,707 --> 01:13:59,158 I don't make my living out of solving people's sexual problems. 1191 01:14:04,888 --> 01:14:07,373 If they say, "I'm well within my right, my freedom of expression," 1192 01:14:07,408 --> 01:14:10,376 I'm well within my right to object to it. 1193 01:14:10,411 --> 01:14:12,240 That's what democracy is unfortunately all about. 1194 01:14:39,440 --> 01:14:41,338 [Dr. Watsa] Okay, here we are. 1195 01:14:41,373 --> 01:14:44,341 I'd like to read you something 1196 01:14:44,376 --> 01:14:47,172 which, I think, will give in summary 1197 01:14:47,206 --> 01:14:50,693 what my hopes that the work that I'm doing will help. 1198 01:14:52,039 --> 01:14:54,420 All human beings are sexual. 1199 01:14:54,455 --> 01:14:57,182 Going through life is a wonderful journey, 1200 01:14:57,216 --> 01:14:58,597 full of excitement and surprises. 1201 01:15:02,049 --> 01:15:05,224 Learning about sexuality begins from the time a child is born 1202 01:15:06,709 --> 01:15:08,711 and continues until the end of life. 1203 01:15:14,751 --> 01:15:15,718 That's pretty. 1204 01:15:16,891 --> 01:15:18,065 That's pretty, yeah? 1205 01:15:25,417 --> 01:15:27,281 -It's been a pleasure, sir. -How do you do? 1206 01:15:27,315 --> 01:15:28,903 Yeah, I mean... 1207 01:15:28,938 --> 01:15:31,216 [laughs] I am awestruck. 1208 01:15:31,250 --> 01:15:32,562 Completely. 1209 01:15:32,597 --> 01:15:35,220 [laughs] I don't have my phone. 1210 01:15:35,254 --> 01:15:38,775 I just wanna go home, get my phone, and get a picture with you. 1211 01:15:38,810 --> 01:15:40,259 -Go. I'll wait for you. -It's just... 1212 01:15:41,260 --> 01:15:42,572 Okay. I'll be right back! 1213 01:15:43,435 --> 01:15:45,264 -Go. -Bye. See you! 1214 01:15:53,928 --> 01:15:55,136 Good. 1215 01:16:09,461 --> 01:16:10,945 Hello. I'm back with my phone. 1216 01:16:10,980 --> 01:16:12,153 We thought you'd disappeared. 1217 01:16:12,188 --> 01:16:15,087 Not at all. [laughs] 1218 01:16:15,122 --> 01:16:18,194 These people who are in their 40s or 50s, they're like a sandwich generation. 1219 01:16:19,782 --> 01:16:22,508 You know? Because their parents taught them something 1220 01:16:22,543 --> 01:16:26,823 and their children are completely not what they thought of. 1221 01:16:26,858 --> 01:16:30,482 Like, I'm 27 years old and I have a curfew. 1222 01:16:30,516 --> 01:16:35,280 I earn, I make a living, and I have a curfew at 10 o'clock. 1223 01:16:35,314 --> 01:16:37,454 -You have a curfew? -Yes! [laughs] 1224 01:16:37,489 --> 01:16:39,629 Well, you're a pretty girl, so... 1225 01:16:39,664 --> 01:16:41,942 You're what people want, you know. 1226 01:16:41,976 --> 01:16:46,325 Please. I can take care of myself. At least in my city. 1227 01:16:46,360 --> 01:16:49,466 You're not trying to, now sort of think also 1228 01:16:49,501 --> 01:16:50,951 of settling down in marriage or something? 1229 01:16:50,985 --> 01:16:52,642 No, I'm not very... 1230 01:16:52,677 --> 01:16:54,471 You'll wait for your parents to arrange it? 1231 01:16:54,506 --> 01:16:56,163 No, not at all. 1232 01:16:56,197 --> 01:16:58,027 I'm waiting for my career to set. 1233 01:16:59,338 --> 01:17:01,478 But why not simultaneously? 1234 01:17:01,513 --> 01:17:05,655 You have to be economically independent. Then que sera sera. 1235 01:17:05,690 --> 01:17:07,657 -Whatever happens, happens. -That's good. That's good. 1236 01:17:07,692 --> 01:17:10,798 But all my guy friends who are my buddies 1237 01:17:10,833 --> 01:17:14,975 they have categorically told me that I'm cute but I'm not hot. 1238 01:17:15,009 --> 01:17:16,045 Better change your friends. 1239 01:17:16,079 --> 01:17:18,012 [laughs] Hopefully. 1240 01:17:18,047 --> 01:17:19,255 They're not your friends. 1241 01:17:21,015 --> 01:17:22,223 They're just friends. 1242 01:17:25,019 --> 01:17:26,538 -Smile. -Let me take my glasses off. 1243 01:17:26,572 --> 01:17:28,264 Oh, my God. You're just like me. 1244 01:17:30,059 --> 01:17:31,888 Okay. Okay. 1245 01:17:32,578 --> 01:17:33,821 Smile. 1246 01:17:33,856 --> 01:17:35,858 Okay. I'm smiling. 1247 01:17:35,892 --> 01:17:38,101 Don't you consider yourself as a legend? 1248 01:17:39,033 --> 01:17:40,621 -Not at all. -Oh, please. 1249 01:17:41,553 --> 01:17:42,623 That's very modest. 1250 01:17:43,072 --> 01:17:44,211 Not at all. 1251 01:17:44,245 --> 01:17:48,284 Okay. So, legend is high. Too much. 1252 01:17:49,078 --> 01:17:50,355 Do you consider yourself 1253 01:17:50,389 --> 01:17:53,220 that you have achieved something 1254 01:17:53,254 --> 01:17:55,705 that is significant and that has made... 1255 01:17:55,740 --> 01:17:58,915 -I think I have. -...life better for people in India? 1256 01:17:58,950 --> 01:18:01,711 That I don't know, whether it's made life better for people in India 1257 01:18:01,746 --> 01:18:05,715 but I have established sex education. 1258 01:18:08,062 --> 01:18:09,857 -Isn't that contributing... -From 1976. 1259 01:18:09,892 --> 01:18:13,723 Isn't that contributing towards your country? 1260 01:18:13,758 --> 01:18:16,588 Yeah, it's all right. So I'm not feeling great about it. 1261 01:18:16,622 --> 01:18:18,245 You're not feeling great about it? 1262 01:18:18,279 --> 01:18:20,074 No. Actually, it's okay. 1263 01:18:20,109 --> 01:18:22,594 I think, by age, you know, 1264 01:18:22,628 --> 01:18:25,390 people stop being excited. 1265 01:18:25,424 --> 01:18:27,047 Or, you know, they don't feel that... 1266 01:18:27,081 --> 01:18:28,393 No, no, no. 1267 01:18:28,427 --> 01:18:29,601 -No? -Uh-uh. 1268 01:18:29,635 --> 01:18:31,396 -It's always been like that. -Like, see, I'm so... 1269 01:18:31,430 --> 01:18:33,225 I'm so excited talking with you, 1270 01:18:33,260 --> 01:18:35,883 you're just calm and composed. 1271 01:18:35,918 --> 01:18:38,748 Yeah, I find people, you know, 1272 01:18:38,783 --> 01:18:42,269 make opinions about each other by themselves. 1273 01:18:42,303 --> 01:18:44,754 So why should I make my own opinion? 1274 01:18:44,789 --> 01:18:46,618 They might think "this fellow is a rogue." 1275 01:18:46,652 --> 01:18:48,447 "This fellow is writing rubbish." 1276 01:18:50,139 --> 01:18:53,418 -Do you enjoy your work? -Yeah. Why not? 1277 01:18:53,452 --> 01:18:55,765 You always should enjoy it, otherwise what's the point of... 1278 01:18:55,800 --> 01:18:57,594 Yeah, what's the point. Exactly. 1279 01:18:57,629 --> 01:18:59,113 Doing something you don't like? 1280 01:18:59,148 --> 01:19:00,321 Absolutely. 1281 01:19:01,978 --> 01:19:03,290 Okay. Thank you so much. 1282 01:19:03,324 --> 01:19:04,429 -Welcome. Good luck. -It was a pleasure. 1283 01:19:04,463 --> 01:19:05,775 -Thank you. -Good luck to you.