1 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:20,000 Visit www.Nexiabet.cc Trusted Secure Online Gambling Agent 2 00:00:07,675 --> 00:00:10,476 - We try to say it we don't want to be nuns 3 00:00:10,478 --> 00:00:12,344 born in a seminary. 4 00:00:12,346 --> 00:00:14,279 We want to get out in a bigger world, 5 00:00:14,281 --> 00:00:18,484 but almost in a unconscious way. 6 00:00:18,586 --> 00:00:21,687 We just found out that we want to be free. 7 00:00:24,558 --> 00:00:26,291 (sniff) 8 00:00:33,367 --> 00:00:35,267 Wow, that's right touching nerves 9 00:00:36,670 --> 00:00:40,139 You know, sometime those words, "free," 10 00:00:40,508 --> 00:00:45,044 it makes connections through decades. 11 00:00:45,046 --> 00:00:46,779 ♪ You know 12 00:00:47,448 --> 00:00:49,848 ♪ You know what it means 13 00:00:49,850 --> 00:00:52,584 ♪ Free 14 00:00:54,855 --> 00:00:58,624 ♪ Say high living costs 15 00:00:58,626 --> 00:01:02,027 ♪ Check the price tag on dreams 16 00:01:04,165 --> 00:01:05,764 We have just lived through the most 17 00:01:05,766 --> 00:01:08,867 tumultuous years in American history 18 00:01:08,869 --> 00:01:11,937 ♪ Fight in every type of war 19 00:01:12,673 --> 00:01:16,108 ♪ Our freedom is premium 20 00:01:16,110 --> 00:01:20,012 ♪ Hope is everything I can afford 21 00:01:20,114 --> 00:01:23,582 - For our graduation, we are class in 1969. 22 00:01:23,584 --> 00:01:25,951 We decided we wanted to try something 23 00:01:25,953 --> 00:01:28,120 that has never been done before. 24 00:01:28,122 --> 00:01:31,123 Not a yearbook, but a Yearbox 25 00:01:31,125 --> 00:01:33,125 full of loose large pages. 26 00:01:33,127 --> 00:01:35,861 Pages that you can display like portfolios, 27 00:01:35,863 --> 00:01:38,530 and you can set it up But they want it. 28 00:01:38,532 --> 00:01:41,834 We decided to go home our own photo shoot 29 00:01:42,336 --> 00:01:45,137 These photos are inspiration for this film 30 00:01:45,139 --> 00:01:49,541 ♪ Do you know what that is? means to be fulfilled 31 00:01:49,844 --> 00:01:51,877 - [Voiceover] I want all, and I want 32 00:01:51,879 --> 00:01:54,179 to see if I can do everything 33 00:01:55,483 --> 00:01:57,749 - [Voiceover] We found freedom is not free 34 00:02:00,688 --> 00:02:02,821 I'm chasing dreams. 35 00:02:02,823 --> 00:02:06,191 ♪ My mother and father 36 00:02:06,193 --> 00:02:09,328 ♪ Did tell me what I should be 37 00:02:10,064 --> 00:02:13,565 ♪ I just want to be happy and 38 00:02:13,567 --> 00:02:16,201 ♪ Make it good before I go ♪ 39 00:02:16,203 --> 00:02:20,873 - Well, I think as a woman, we have a unique opportunity to tell the story of a woman who went to a women's college. 40 00:02:21,108 --> 00:02:24,810 Very few are there anymore. 41 00:02:24,912 --> 00:02:26,778 And give our perspective how to 42 00:02:27,414 --> 00:02:31,016 our lives have changed, or how do we change the world 43 00:02:31,018 --> 00:02:34,753 - Even to get to the point where you can 44 00:02:34,755 --> 00:02:36,788 expressing feelings of anger, That is an achievement. 45 00:02:36,790 --> 00:02:41,126 And there are all these quarrels about women and their roles, 46 00:02:41,195 --> 00:02:44,696 and you have to do it keep breaking through it 47 00:02:44,698 --> 00:02:48,233 - What I can't do at that time 48 00:02:48,235 --> 00:02:51,336 49 00:02:51,338 --> 00:02:54,540 is how unboxed my life will be. 50 00:02:54,542 --> 00:02:57,910 ♪ If the mockingbird doesn't sing 51 00:02:57,912 --> 00:03:01,713 ♪ Mama will buy you diamond ring ♪ 52 00:03:03,751 --> 00:03:05,984 - [Voiceover] I feel like I'm originally 53 00:03:05,986 --> 00:03:07,786 of something very interesting 54 00:03:08,255 --> 00:03:10,122 - [Voiceover] You know, I really want 55 00:03:10,124 --> 00:03:13,525 spread my wings and have a big life 56 00:03:13,527 --> 00:03:16,228 - [Voiceover] I I'm very scared. 57 00:03:16,230 --> 00:03:19,531 The first person in me is directly family to study. 58 00:03:19,533 --> 00:03:21,366 - [Voiceover] Father works in a factory 59 00:03:21,368 --> 00:03:23,068 He makes tires. 60 00:03:23,871 --> 00:03:25,804 - [Voiceover] Previous I went to Skidmore, 61 00:03:25,806 --> 00:03:28,740 I checked two books in Manchester Public Library. 62 00:03:28,742 --> 00:03:31,009 Amy Vanderbilt and Emily Post, 63 00:03:31,011 --> 00:03:32,711 because I don't want to make mistakes 64 00:03:32,713 --> 00:03:34,947 - [Voiceover] Meanwhile, outside the shelter 65 00:03:34,949 --> 00:03:37,683 from our college, there is a disaster event 66 00:03:37,685 --> 00:03:40,552 happens everywhere the world will 67 00:03:40,554 --> 00:03:43,422 affects all of us and changes our lives 68 00:03:45,492 --> 00:03:46,959 - [Voiceover] Things that stand out for me 69 00:03:46,961 --> 00:03:49,895 when I look back is how young I am. 70 00:03:49,964 --> 00:03:54,299 This setting is pretty pretty red, and I want red 71 00:03:54,301 --> 00:03:56,702 says, "I'm here." 72 00:03:56,704 --> 00:04:00,339 If you see Afro-Americans and the numbers don't exist, 73 00:04:00,341 --> 00:04:02,407 You appear two, three, or four in one group 74 00:04:02,409 --> 00:04:05,277 or whatever and people start seeing you 75 00:04:05,279 --> 00:04:06,678 Like them have never seen black people 76 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:08,480 before or something 77 00:04:08,482 --> 00:04:11,250 - My parents put me on a plane in Beirut, Lebanon 78 00:04:11,252 --> 00:04:12,451 I don't see them for another year 79 00:04:12,453 --> 00:04:14,419 Because we can't be able to fly back. 80 00:04:14,421 --> 00:04:16,955 - So we go up to the dormitory, 81 00:04:16,957 --> 00:04:20,325 and these girls are on the porch 82 00:04:20,928 --> 00:04:24,763 and they wait and they start clapping, and-- 83 00:04:24,765 --> 00:04:27,432 - My roommate is a beautiful woman from Long Island, he Father is a doctor. 84 00:04:27,434 --> 00:04:30,068 Things I remember about him 85 00:04:30,070 --> 00:04:32,271 does he enter with a clothes rack, 86 00:04:32,273 --> 00:04:35,107 rolling clothes shelves, full of clothes 87 00:04:35,109 --> 00:04:38,310 with their price tag still. 88 00:04:38,312 --> 00:04:41,079 And I know at that time I was a brave new world. (laugh) 89 00:04:41,081 --> 00:04:45,384 - And they charge out and my sister 90 00:04:45,686 --> 00:04:47,586 come running out as I got out of the car. 91 00:04:47,588 --> 00:04:50,489 Obviously he knows me, but I'm still trying 92 00:04:50,491 --> 00:04:52,824 to find out which one he is. 93 00:04:52,826 --> 00:04:55,294 And he ran and he hugged me, 94 00:04:55,296 --> 00:04:57,696 95 00:04:57,698 --> 00:05:00,032 and others swoop down and baggage 96 00:05:00,034 --> 00:05:04,002 exchanged out, and they speak and they hug 97 00:05:04,004 --> 00:05:05,704 and my parents see each one - 98 00:05:05,706 --> 00:05:08,940 I see eye contact instantly 99 00:05:08,942 --> 00:05:12,210 between them, "Alhamdulillah. 100 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:15,414 " He was treated like everyone else. " 101 00:05:15,416 --> 00:05:20,185 I think my mother is almost crying. Relief 102 00:05:20,788 --> 00:05:22,654 - I come from a very right family , introduced to people who grow up. 103 00:05:22,656 --> 00:05:24,056 - High social life school is very... 104 00:05:24,058 --> 00:05:28,460 I really enjoy it.... 105 00:05:29,029 --> 00:05:31,830 - At that time, everyone is trying to adjust 106 00:05:32,333 --> 00:05:33,632 Trying to appear like is as easy as possible 107 00:05:33,634 --> 00:05:35,901 108 00:05:35,903 --> 00:05:38,403 109 00:05:38,405 --> 00:05:40,372 110 00:05:40,374 --> 00:05:42,808 111 00:05:43,110 --> 00:05:45,410 I was very surprised find out there is a girl 112 00:05:45,412 --> 00:05:49,247 on the floor I already have _ callers 113 00:05:49,850 --> 00:05:52,551 He has about five people who come to see him. 114 00:05:52,820 --> 00:05:54,252 And I said, "How do they all know 115 00:05:54,254 --> 00:05:55,687 " he is here? " He is really pretty. 116 00:05:55,689 --> 00:05:57,589 Very beautiful, striking blonde 117 00:05:57,591 --> 00:06:00,192 We all wear sweaters and skirts 118 00:06:00,194 --> 00:06:03,095 and he wears a slinky cocktail dress, 119 00:06:03,097 --> 00:06:06,732 and these people from Dartmouth are waiting for him, 120 00:06:07,101 --> 00:06:09,901 and I feel really simple. 121 00:06:11,572 --> 00:06:13,405 I realize I have a lot to learn. 122 00:06:16,410 --> 00:06:19,044 - And I said to my wife, "1,400 young women? 123 00:06:19,046 --> 00:06:21,546 "Really? Problems they can get?" 124 00:06:21,915 --> 00:06:24,549 And he said, "Oh, you will learn." 125 00:06:25,085 --> 00:06:26,351 And I do it. 126 00:06:26,553 --> 00:06:29,421 - And class & apos; 69 actually 127 00:06:29,423 --> 00:06:32,357 at the beginning of the dawn. 128 00:06:32,359 --> 00:06:35,293 They start thinking about it 129 00:06:35,295 --> 00:06:38,930 that they can control more than their destiny 130 00:06:38,932 --> 00:06:42,534 than before, than their mother, 131 00:06:42,536 --> 00:06:44,870 and of course they grandma has 132 00:06:45,439 --> 00:06:47,973 - We are transitioning from the old to the new 133 00:06:47,975 --> 00:06:50,342 in everything, do go with all the rules, 134 00:06:50,344 --> 00:06:53,845 basically, in that case span four years. 135 00:06:53,914 --> 00:06:55,814 - Pretty much from get-go 136 00:06:55,816 --> 00:06:58,583 arrived at the Skidmore campus, 137 00:06:58,585 --> 00:07:02,554 there are nuances, newborn feelings of liberation 138 00:07:02,556 --> 00:07:04,890 We ourselves, we are on our own two feet, 139 00:07:04,892 --> 00:07:07,659 and we must learn to speak for what we believe 140 00:07:08,162 --> 00:07:11,396 But gee, it's long Time before I feel really 141 00:07:11,398 --> 00:07:14,299 comfortable talking in class even. 142 00:07:14,301 --> 00:07:15,734 I am a shy person. 143 00:07:16,703 --> 00:07:19,638 And finally, you find your voice 144 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,174 - Chances are A girl can appear 145 00:07:22,176 --> 00:07:24,643 with its own version from its own voice, 146 00:07:24,645 --> 00:07:25,977 I thought I was talking to myself. 147 00:07:25,979 --> 00:07:27,245 I'm about me. 148 00:07:27,247 --> 00:07:29,748 I'm looking for a way, I don't want to just like that 149 00:07:30,417 --> 00:07:32,150 like a cookie cutter person. 150 00:07:32,152 --> 00:07:35,620 - All that allows me to learn 151 00:07:35,622 --> 00:07:39,024 that you can't, nothing will intimidate me 152 00:07:39,359 --> 00:07:41,593 - What I think is a lot of from the 60s is about, 153 00:07:41,595 --> 00:07:43,462 This is what you are doing goods and there are 154 00:07:43,464 --> 00:07:47,766 little danger they, take risks 155 00:07:47,768 --> 00:07:49,634 - Well, all hell is released 156 00:07:49,636 --> 00:07:53,738 between 1965 and 1969. 157 00:07:54,107 --> 00:07:57,309 That is a completely new world. 158 00:07:57,945 --> 00:08:00,111 The dormitory is now open to men, 159 00:08:00,113 --> 00:08:03,415 mother house sent packing, 160 00:08:03,417 --> 00:08:06,384 Students now manage the dormitory. 161 00:08:06,386 --> 00:08:11,022 Women now have their men and men date of stay for the weekend 162 00:08:11,024 --> 00:08:12,624 Everything has changed. 163 00:08:12,626 --> 00:08:14,626 - And I was called before the Honorary Council 164 00:08:14,628 --> 00:08:17,929 to drink alcohol on campus 165 00:08:17,931 --> 00:08:20,465 And they say that to me I will be punished 166 00:08:20,467 --> 00:08:23,702 and that I must resign as Senior Class President. 167 00:08:23,971 --> 00:08:25,704 And I said, "Okay, you didn't choose me. 168 00:08:25,706 --> 00:08:27,672 " You can't choose me. " 169 00:08:27,674 --> 00:08:30,141 They say," Then, will get a vote. " 170 00:08:30,143 --> 00:08:32,110 I say," Okay, here's a vote. 171 00:08:32,112 --> 00:08:35,447 "Voting is you holding me, 172 00:08:35,516 --> 00:08:37,115 " We get liquor on campus. 173 00:08:37,184 --> 00:08:39,050 "You kick me out, 174 00:08:39,786 --> 00:08:42,787 " You win, I come out. " 175 00:08:42,789 --> 00:08:44,890 Faculties are one third, 176 00:08:44,892 --> 00:08:47,459 administration is third, 177 00:08:47,461 --> 00:08:48,793 and students are third. 178 00:08:48,795 --> 00:08:52,297 All three sections choose 179 00:08:52,933 --> 00:08:55,233 allows you to drink on campus 180 00:08:55,769 --> 00:08:57,135 That is a big victory. 181 00:08:57,137 --> 00:08:59,471 Ask Dean Olds I am in front of a vote, 182 00:08:59,473 --> 00:09:00,939 and he said, "Why? do you do this? 183 00:09:00,941 --> 00:09:04,142 I say," Look, that's how celebrates my birthday. " 184 00:09:04,511 --> 00:09:07,112 And he said," What do you drink? " 185 00:09:07,114 --> 00:09:10,015 And I said," Okay, old A mixture of crow and whiskey acids. " 186 00:09:10,017 --> 00:09:13,018 And he goes," Oh my dear, don't you know 187 00:09:13,020 --> 00:09:15,153 "Next time, I will give more money 188 00:09:15,155 --> 00:09:18,557 " Old crows can make you are very sick 189 00:09:19,359 --> 00:09:21,826 - This is how we imagine it our life will become. 190 00:09:21,828 --> 00:09:23,295 We will be glamorous, 191 00:09:23,297 --> 00:09:26,097 and still throw back for something vintage 192 00:09:26,099 --> 00:09:29,568 and cool, but now we're out there 193 00:09:29,570 --> 00:09:31,803 And we can do it whatever we want, 194 00:09:31,805 --> 00:09:34,639 and we bake ourselves. 195 00:09:34,641 --> 00:09:36,975 In our first mixer, you use a sheath and heel. 196 00:09:36,977 --> 00:09:39,244 That is a dress code, sheath and heel. 197 00:09:39,546 --> 00:09:42,213 Very Mad Men, very sheath and heel. 198 00:09:42,215 --> 00:09:45,650 With the second mixer, you record your shoes together 199 00:09:45,652 --> 00:09:48,119 Remember that, shoes are things 200 00:09:48,121 --> 00:09:50,021 and you can beat them up as much as you want, 201 00:09:50,023 --> 00:09:53,325 then you put this like, adhesive, this is like adhesive bandage 202 00:09:53,327 --> 00:09:56,127 around them to hold them together, because it's cool 203 00:09:56,129 --> 00:09:58,430 to have that one messy. 204 00:09:58,432 --> 00:10:01,132 And it's like one years, everything changes. 205 00:10:01,134 --> 00:10:04,736 Meanwhile freeing, is also very scary 206 00:10:04,738 --> 00:10:07,639 Previously, you have edited and you were channeled to, 207 00:10:07,641 --> 00:10:09,641 You can become a teacher, You can become a nurse, 208 00:10:09,643 --> 00:10:14,379 You can become a buyer, but Now, the rule is not active. 209 00:10:14,381 --> 00:10:18,016 Now the rule is, you can whatever you want 210 00:10:18,018 --> 00:10:21,753 I'm like, "Okay, I don't know what I want." (Laugh) 211 00:10:21,755 --> 00:10:24,990 Well, this is like, "Here it is all flavors of ice cream, 212 00:10:24,992 --> 00:10:27,993 and you go," I don't know if I like butter pecans. " 213 00:10:28,095 --> 00:10:31,096 (rock music) 214 00:10:32,132 --> 00:10:36,668 - The Yearbox, what is a good _ metaphor. 215 00:10:37,804 --> 00:10:41,806 These students came in 1965, 216 00:10:41,808 --> 00:10:45,777 and they, entered several ways, in a box, 217 00:10:45,779 --> 00:10:48,813 in the cage even at that time. 218 00:10:48,815 --> 00:10:51,850 Parental discipline cage. 219 00:10:52,653 --> 00:10:57,188 Very strong cage strict college law 220 00:10:57,624 --> 00:10:58,890 - Ah, here it is 221 00:10:58,892 --> 00:11:00,558 Yearbook in a box, 222 00:11:00,560 --> 00:11:03,461 and how it happened. 223 00:11:03,463 --> 00:11:05,363 You are a student What year 224 00:11:05,365 --> 00:11:06,131 - senior 225 00:11:06,299 --> 00:11:07,666 - senior 226 00:11:07,668 --> 00:11:10,135 Well, when I was a junior, I was tapped by, 227 00:11:12,072 --> 00:11:15,073 one of the art professors, who is very aware 228 00:11:15,075 --> 00:11:16,941 and sensitive to yearbooks. 229 00:11:16,943 --> 00:11:18,877 Can't we do anything more 230 00:11:18,879 --> 00:11:20,912 than what is always done? 231 00:11:21,214 --> 00:11:23,715 He never met a project that cannot be rediscovered 232 00:11:23,717 --> 00:11:24,949 (laugh) 233 00:11:24,951 --> 00:11:28,787 So he just let it I conceptualize 234 00:11:29,690 --> 00:11:31,122 - Oh, I like how he tried 235 00:11:31,124 --> 00:11:33,058 to really survive there. (laughter) 236 00:11:33,060 --> 00:11:35,927 And all good people do it easily. 237 00:11:36,329 --> 00:11:38,997 - Bob suggested that I go home 238 00:11:38,999 --> 00:11:41,633 and come up with some new concepts 239 00:11:41,635 --> 00:11:43,401 for what yearbook can be. 240 00:11:43,403 --> 00:11:44,969 It comes with responsibility, 241 00:11:44,971 --> 00:11:48,139 possible, to rediscover it, 242 00:11:48,141 --> 00:11:50,742 and make a better world. 243 00:11:50,744 --> 00:11:53,745 And we like to think this is a better world 244 00:11:53,747 --> 00:11:56,047 - That's very much 245 00:11:56,049 --> 00:11:58,516 opens the possibility, 246 00:11:59,319 --> 00:12:01,219 and think outside the box, if you want, 247 00:12:01,221 --> 00:12:04,389 to make references to our Year Box 248 00:12:05,959 --> 00:12:07,859 And sort of recreate your life 249 00:12:08,328 --> 00:12:09,627 (rock music) 250 00:12:09,629 --> 00:12:11,563 - He said, "Skidmore is looking for a 251 00:12:11,565 --> 00:12:14,733 " photographer who wants senior class photo 252 00:12:14,735 --> 00:12:16,468 - I mean, all of those photos 253 00:12:16,470 --> 00:12:20,405 is part of a type of release 254 00:12:20,841 --> 00:12:23,174 - And you have me write Sedan a letter, 255 00:12:23,176 --> 00:12:25,310 and I remember coming for you at a snack bar 256 00:12:25,312 --> 00:12:29,047 with my response, because we use U.S. letters. in those days 257 00:12:29,049 --> 00:12:30,281 - (laugh) Yes, right 258 00:12:30,283 --> 00:12:32,150 - Oh, I got a letter from Sedan. 259 00:12:32,152 --> 00:12:34,886 Oh, he will be very interested in our project 260 00:12:34,888 --> 00:12:38,389 He wants me to come to Yale as his guest. 261 00:12:38,692 --> 00:12:41,459 And Bob said, "And stay in the living room, 262 00:12:41,461 --> 00:12:43,428 " I assume. " (laughter) 263 00:12:43,430 --> 00:12:45,964 And that should be my tip right away. I'm still a shy young man. 264 00:12:45,966 --> 00:12:48,099 I am the only rooster in park, so to speak 265 00:12:49,603 --> 00:12:51,836 I am in Wonderland. 266 00:12:51,838 --> 00:12:56,174 I think this will happen be a good photo 267 00:12:56,176 --> 00:12:57,942 because I think they will take off their clothes 268 00:12:57,944 --> 00:13:00,145 in areas where I can see them. 269 00:13:00,147 --> 00:13:02,814 But they all disappear and return with barrels 270 00:13:03,316 --> 00:13:05,416 Many of them will do it show a little 271 00:13:05,852 --> 00:13:09,354 272 00:13:10,090 --> 00:13:12,490 273 00:13:12,492 --> 00:13:16,394 Diamond rings, like not touch me, or don't... 274 00:13:17,330 --> 00:13:20,598 So I immediately knew they were banned One time when we are in a position 275 00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:24,869 to be very intimate, and he said to me, 276 00:13:24,871 --> 00:13:27,639 "I want to stay virgin until I get married." 277 00:13:28,275 --> 00:13:30,942 I never forget it. 278 00:13:30,944 --> 00:13:32,844 Occupy Wall Street, occupy this and that 279 00:13:33,413 --> 00:13:36,114 Very rooted in business generation & apos; 60s. 280 00:13:36,116 --> 00:13:41,119 The accompanying freedom. 281 00:13:41,788 --> 00:13:43,922 Freedom of expression, and freedom 282 00:13:44,191 --> 00:13:47,492 actions among students The most important thing to me. 283 00:13:47,494 --> 00:13:51,462 (soft flute music) 284 00:13:51,464 --> 00:13:53,898 - This architecture speaks to me because of that 285 00:14:03,510 --> 00:14:06,411 fantastic and cheerful, and it's not just a box. 286 00:14:06,413 --> 00:14:09,948 Architecture without boxes. 287 00:14:09,950 --> 00:14:12,083 Photography shoot with Sedat, 288 00:14:12,285 --> 00:14:14,519 289 00:14:14,521 --> 00:14:17,422 as I remember, involved he involved me 290 00:14:17,424 --> 00:14:20,792 in conversation, so is not like when he poses 291 00:14:20,794 --> 00:14:24,062 and suggested different places to stand 292 00:14:26,099 --> 00:14:29,901 He will ask questions, and the questions 293 00:14:29,903 --> 00:14:32,837 I remember when he snapped it, 294 00:14:33,306 --> 00:14:35,673 "So, what will you do? do next year?" (Laughs) 295 00:14:35,675 --> 00:14:37,942 And I said, "I go to live in Italy." 296 00:14:37,944 --> 00:14:39,477 And click. (click shutter) 297 00:14:41,581 --> 00:14:44,082 - All doors are not open. 298 00:14:44,084 --> 00:14:46,117 You can do anything you want, and then, 299 00:14:46,119 --> 00:14:48,419 what makes you think you can do it? 300 00:14:48,421 --> 00:14:52,557 I am not aware of obstacles for a long time 301 00:14:52,792 --> 00:14:55,927 It took me a while realized that I was, 302 00:14:55,929 --> 00:14:58,429 I start destroy some obstacles. 303 00:14:58,498 --> 00:15:00,565 - Women do not run for president 304 00:15:00,567 --> 00:15:03,334 from school, you can be a secretary 305 00:15:04,271 --> 00:15:06,104 Certainly not a treasurer, Because you don't believe 306 00:15:06,106 --> 00:15:09,540 Women with money, at least not in high school in the 60s. 307 00:15:09,542 --> 00:15:11,876 I have never really... 308 00:15:12,279 --> 00:15:16,781 thought I would spend my life 309 00:15:17,150 --> 00:15:20,285 being a mother, a wife, and a worker. 310 00:15:22,022 --> 00:15:24,689 That doesn't seem like chance for me 311 00:15:24,691 --> 00:15:26,958 I mean, when I grow up, I have one mother 312 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:29,460 that works, and You should have heard it 313 00:15:29,462 --> 00:15:31,195 other mothers talk about him 314 00:15:31,197 --> 00:15:32,997 - I grow up with parents 315 00:15:32,999 --> 00:15:35,366 and a small white chisel fence. 316 00:15:35,368 --> 00:15:39,137 You will think it will happen be how my life works. 317 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:41,406 Not so. 318 00:15:42,342 --> 00:15:44,309 (soft music) 319 00:15:44,311 --> 00:15:48,346 - I always think all others 320 00:15:48,348 --> 00:15:51,182 know more than me, and they kind of, 321 00:15:51,184 --> 00:15:55,720 they have a secret formula for for us, and I don't. 322 00:15:55,722 --> 00:15:57,689 - I always feel like everyone 323 00:15:57,691 --> 00:15:59,657 more handsome than me. 324 00:16:00,226 --> 00:16:03,661 - I really did it felt like I was... 325 00:16:05,865 --> 00:16:07,598 not from TripAdvisor. 326 00:16:09,269 --> 00:16:12,470 When I say that, I don't think that I'm 327 00:16:12,472 --> 00:16:15,373 ever existed in me any element 328 00:16:15,375 --> 00:16:17,542 - But it's true It takes a long time for me 329 00:16:17,544 --> 00:16:21,612 before I feel centralized. 330 00:16:22,048 --> 00:16:24,048 - I am afraid to be beautiful. 331 00:16:25,151 --> 00:16:26,351 Yes. 332 00:16:27,053 --> 00:16:29,087 I'm afraid to be funny. 333 00:16:30,623 --> 00:16:33,024 I want to say that I don't know why. 334 00:16:40,900 --> 00:16:44,168 The closest I can get to the truth... 335 00:16:46,473 --> 00:16:47,972 What is that... 336 00:16:55,582 --> 00:16:57,648 I think I'm afraid so 337 00:16:58,251 --> 00:16:59,517 what will I... 338 00:17:00,086 --> 00:17:02,253 what people will see 339 00:17:02,722 --> 00:17:05,590 will not be accepted 340 00:17:06,226 --> 00:17:07,725 I am lost. 341 00:17:08,695 --> 00:17:12,330 ♪ God will trouble the water 342 00:17:12,332 --> 00:17:13,998 - And we start singing, 343 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:17,468 "Let the woman speak, Let the woman speak!" 344 00:17:17,470 --> 00:17:20,805 Life just feels like every day you wake up 345 00:17:20,807 --> 00:17:25,810 and there will be other types from "Wham, here's the other 346 00:17:25,945 --> 00:17:28,980 " The main thing is big That happens. " 347 00:17:28,982 --> 00:17:31,049 And rightly so feels like the ground 348 00:17:31,051 --> 00:17:33,251 only shifts all the time. 349 00:17:34,154 --> 00:17:38,689 - Starts being critical the mass in our hearts 350 00:17:39,559 --> 00:17:43,795 of what we need to do. told to be quiet, 351 00:17:43,797 --> 00:17:46,864 to calm down, calm down. to calm down. " 352 00:17:46,866 --> 00:17:49,801 - People being killed, there are 353 00:17:49,803 --> 00:17:51,502 354 00:17:51,504 --> 00:17:53,071 355 00:17:53,073 --> 00:17:55,540 356 00:17:55,542 --> 00:17:58,076 357 00:17:58,078 --> 00:18:01,012 riots on the streets, the city is on fire 358 00:18:01,014 --> 00:18:03,047 Civil Rights Movement, 359 00:18:03,049 --> 00:18:04,849 war, lib woman. 360 00:18:04,851 --> 00:18:06,684 Students now think if they "like" something on Facebook it they have done their bid, 361 00:18:06,686 --> 00:18:09,287 but you won't affect changes in society 362 00:18:09,289 --> 00:18:12,290 unless you go out there and try to do something about it 363 00:18:12,292 --> 00:18:15,026 - I have lived through two 364 00:18:15,028 --> 00:18:17,662 really awesome event in terms of 365 00:18:17,664 --> 00:18:20,832 the impact on my world 366 00:18:20,834 --> 00:18:23,901 One of them is the murder of President Kennedy and all that flows from it, 367 00:18:23,903 --> 00:18:27,872 and other events are 9/11. 368 00:18:27,874 --> 00:18:30,308 - I work for, in and from newspapers 369 00:18:30,310 --> 00:18:32,310 When I go to college, and I get the opportunity 370 00:18:32,312 --> 00:18:35,146 to interview Bobby Kennedy, 371 00:18:35,148 --> 00:18:37,949 372 00:18:37,951 --> 00:18:39,717 373 00:18:39,719 --> 00:18:42,920 Who, my God, is one of my great heroes I was destroyed when he was killed 374 00:18:42,922 --> 00:18:46,357 - [Voiceover] Bobby Kennedy's day comes to campus... 375 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:49,594 - I have my photo sitting right behind him. 376 00:18:49,596 --> 00:18:53,431 What surprised me, hers Hands tremble. 377 00:18:53,433 --> 00:18:56,701 I will never forget that. His hands are trembling. 378 00:18:57,070 --> 00:18:59,770 No one can see it behind the podium 379 00:18:59,772 --> 00:19:01,506 In front of him, but I Can, I'm right behind him. 380 00:19:01,508 --> 00:19:04,208 The page vibrates, hands 381 00:19:04,210 --> 00:19:05,977 trembling so newspaper crackling. 382 00:19:05,979 --> 00:19:08,379 - I started seeing it treated women 383 00:19:08,381 --> 00:19:12,049 in the same way to enter the way black people 384 00:19:12,051 --> 00:19:14,886 is being treated, that's how it is It's not a difficult jump 385 00:19:14,888 --> 00:19:18,990 to make between what happened 386 00:19:18,992 --> 00:19:21,058 in Civil Rights Movement and want to get 387 00:19:21,060 --> 00:19:23,194 388 00:19:23,196 --> 00:19:25,263 more with the Women's Movement. 389 00:19:25,265 --> 00:19:27,031 - There is a woman in the dormitory, 390 00:19:27,033 --> 00:19:29,400 I don't know whether the _ is her fiance, 391 00:19:29,402 --> 00:19:32,103 being in Vietnam, and he calls him 392 00:19:32,105 --> 00:19:33,738 and I remember that conversation 393 00:19:33,740 --> 00:19:35,606 Hearts like that break up conversation 394 00:19:35,608 --> 00:19:38,776 He is there, who knows 395 00:19:38,778 --> 00:19:40,912 when or whether he ever did it talk to him again, 396 00:19:40,914 --> 00:19:43,614 and he is in this case payphone in the hall 397 00:19:43,616 --> 00:19:45,650 - All the boys I grew up with , because I'm not 398 00:19:45,652 --> 00:19:47,318 grow in a luxurious environment, 399 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:50,655 is being designed for going to war, 400 00:19:50,757 --> 00:19:53,224 and many of them are killed, 401 00:19:53,393 --> 00:19:55,693 Most of the people I know, including myself, 402 00:19:55,695 --> 00:20:00,264 do not believe it is moral war, a war that can be justified 403 00:20:00,266 --> 00:20:02,567 It appears to be U.S. do not have a business 404 00:20:02,569 --> 00:20:05,603 being in Vietnam, that is a civil war, 405 00:20:05,605 --> 00:20:08,706 and that kind of smells of imperialism 406 00:20:09,042 --> 00:20:11,809 That's what drove everyone felt 407 00:20:11,811 --> 00:20:13,911 that they really must speak. 408 00:20:14,614 --> 00:20:16,147 - You know, when is he? go home and I meet him 409 00:20:16,149 --> 00:20:19,584 at the airport, I thought he was successful. 410 00:20:19,586 --> 00:20:22,386 He comes out without being killed 411 00:20:23,022 --> 00:20:25,890 And then he in the early 40s, 412 00:20:25,892 --> 00:20:28,826 One night he said it I, "I have cancer." 413 00:20:28,828 --> 00:20:31,762 I said, "If it's a slow-growing cancer, 414 00:20:32,232 --> 00:20:35,533 " You might be able to track it down Return to Vietnam. " 415 00:20:35,535 --> 00:20:36,801 You know what I mean? 416 00:20:36,803 --> 00:20:38,236 Yes, for (murmuring) 417 00:20:38,238 --> 00:20:40,004 You know, I really love him. 418 00:20:40,807 --> 00:20:42,106 But he's gone. 419 00:20:43,176 --> 00:20:46,644 ♪ If the mockingbird doesn't sing 420 00:20:46,646 --> 00:20:50,448 ♪ Mama will buy you diamond ring 421 00:20:50,450 --> 00:20:54,352 ♪ If the diamond is the ring changes to brass 422 00:20:54,354 --> 00:20:57,855 ♪ Mama will buy You see glass ♪ 423 00:20:57,857 --> 00:20:59,557 - [Voiceover] Everyone home from Christmas 424 00:20:59,559 --> 00:21:01,659 senior year with their rings. 425 00:21:01,661 --> 00:21:04,729 - Sex is never a conversation at home 426 00:21:04,931 --> 00:21:08,299 And he said to me, "Are you? know what a diaphragm is?" 427 00:21:08,735 --> 00:21:12,003 And I said, "Yes, this muscle is = = (laugh)" below... " 428 00:21:12,005 --> 00:21:14,305 - Finally the enlightened gynecologist comes to town, 429 00:21:17,777 --> 00:21:20,878 and he lets it know that he will do it, 430 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:24,248 she will give birth control to the woman who is engaged. 431 00:21:24,250 --> 00:21:27,585 One of my students is sent go to her sister 432 00:21:27,987 --> 00:21:31,422 Engagement ring, she puts it on, goes to see a doctor, 433 00:21:31,424 --> 00:21:35,426 434 00:21:35,795 --> 00:21:37,561 and years of doctor then say to me, 435 00:21:37,563 --> 00:21:41,499 "Tom, if I see the ring Once, I see it 27 times." 436 00:21:42,702 --> 00:21:44,635 That's a woman Must be done in that era 437 00:21:44,637 --> 00:21:46,170 to get birth control. 438 00:21:46,172 --> 00:21:48,673 - Ring in spring That is nonsense. 439 00:21:48,675 --> 00:21:52,276 I've never heard of it before, It's not my agenda. 440 00:21:52,578 --> 00:21:55,246 My mother told me early on, if you want to get married, 441 00:21:55,248 --> 00:21:57,815 stay home and save everyone has a lot of money 442 00:21:58,151 --> 00:22:00,284 - I think so is interested in romance 443 00:22:00,286 --> 00:22:02,086 From that time on I was around four years old. 444 00:22:02,088 --> 00:22:05,056 This little boy named Georgie Kiefer gave me a ring. 445 00:22:05,058 --> 00:22:07,425 That is the beginning of my final . 446 00:22:07,427 --> 00:22:10,328 I think everyone wants it to appear as a virgin, 447 00:22:10,330 --> 00:22:12,663 and I think everyone said they were virgins. 448 00:22:12,665 --> 00:22:14,498 I really restore my virginity 449 00:22:14,500 --> 00:22:16,534 after high school. (laughter) 450 00:22:16,536 --> 00:22:18,803 I later became a person... (laugh) 451 00:22:18,805 --> 00:22:23,407 I am a virgin who has just recovered. 452 00:22:24,844 --> 00:22:27,178 - I cheated on with two professors 453 00:22:27,180 --> 00:22:30,181 The plane belongs to professor, first professor. 454 00:22:30,183 --> 00:22:32,350 He kind of, I think, 455 00:22:32,352 --> 00:22:34,652 the best looking professor on campus 456 00:22:34,654 --> 00:22:37,221 I am his girlfriend, therefore people will 457 00:22:37,223 --> 00:22:39,223 turn their heads to see me 458 00:22:39,225 --> 00:22:41,158 I am friends with His family and I remember 459 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,995 being in their house When we land on the moon. 460 00:22:45,565 --> 00:22:48,866 Another milestone is find out through analysis 461 00:22:48,868 --> 00:22:52,303 and by being friends 462 00:22:52,305 --> 00:22:56,741 with great groups people, I'm gay. 463 00:22:58,511 --> 00:23:01,112 The most difficult part about that 464 00:23:01,114 --> 00:23:04,782 tells my family, that doesn't work well. 465 00:23:04,784 --> 00:23:09,787 - From that amount grows great solidarity with that person 466 00:23:11,357 --> 00:23:15,292 coming out of the closet, has come out of the closet... 467 00:23:16,696 --> 00:23:20,030 I mean, we've just been a colleague, 468 00:23:20,032 --> 00:23:23,501 an engineer at work, who is a week off 469 00:23:24,537 --> 00:23:26,003 and back as a woman. 470 00:23:26,005 --> 00:23:27,938 - I write to him every day in the summer, 471 00:23:27,940 --> 00:23:29,874 and he never replied to me. 472 00:23:29,876 --> 00:23:33,511 I remember that as was very painful 473 00:23:33,513 --> 00:23:35,379 I will go to my child mailbox in Oak Bluffs, 474 00:23:35,381 --> 00:23:37,314 I will open it and there will be nothing in 475 00:23:37,316 --> 00:23:39,650 Finally, he must have called me or something happened, 476 00:23:39,652 --> 00:23:42,319 and I went to visit him and his family in Vermont. 477 00:23:42,321 --> 00:23:45,623 I was in his room, 478 00:23:46,292 --> 00:23:48,392 and I open the top drawer, and there are 479 00:23:48,394 --> 00:23:52,296 my mail stack all in one piece. 480 00:23:53,132 --> 00:23:55,199 When I leave, I take it. 481 00:23:55,535 --> 00:23:57,134 And he never said anything to me about that, 482 00:23:57,136 --> 00:23:58,803 he clearly has they sit there, 483 00:23:58,805 --> 00:24:03,073 and I read it, and I was a little horrified, 484 00:24:04,844 --> 00:24:08,212 and then I was buried they were outside (laugh) 485 00:24:10,383 --> 00:24:12,383 I tried digging them a few years later 486 00:24:12,385 --> 00:24:14,452 and they are no longer there. 487 00:24:14,687 --> 00:24:17,154 - Your sister arranges you in your first year 488 00:24:17,156 --> 00:24:21,025 with frat boy from Union College 489 00:24:21,794 --> 00:24:24,361 490 00:24:24,363 --> 00:24:26,497 and he drinks a lot of beer and really becomes football, 491 00:24:26,499 --> 00:24:29,600 and it's not mine. 492 00:24:29,602 --> 00:24:31,402 So I just found a little home in Caffè Lena. 493 00:24:31,404 --> 00:24:33,304 (regional music) 494 00:24:33,306 --> 00:24:36,006 That's a university for us. 495 00:24:36,242 --> 00:24:38,742 I finally became a waiter there almost all four years. 496 00:24:38,744 --> 00:24:42,146 You can play music, no You just have to listen. 497 00:24:42,148 --> 00:24:46,450 ♪ Wade in the water 498 00:24:46,752 --> 00:24:51,422 ♪ Wade in children's water 499 00:24:51,424 --> 00:24:55,926 ♪ Wade in the water 500 00:24:55,928 --> 00:25:00,397 ♪ God will destroy water 501 00:25:03,035 --> 00:25:06,070 Well, first love My life, he is a master 502 00:25:06,072 --> 00:25:09,073 Guitar player, he has a beautiful Martin D-28, 503 00:25:09,075 --> 00:25:12,376 I think, and fair beautiful picking style, 504 00:25:14,714 --> 00:25:17,515 and very, very sweet song. 505 00:25:17,517 --> 00:25:21,252 I lost my virginity in Lena's apartment 506 00:25:21,254 --> 00:25:25,389 Actually, he gave us our big bedroom (laugh) 507 00:25:27,226 --> 00:25:29,560 - I always have it feels good in men. 508 00:25:29,629 --> 00:25:31,228 - Sometimes you have to smell a lot 509 00:25:31,230 --> 00:25:33,163 frog to meet the prince. 510 00:25:33,165 --> 00:25:35,466 - I think I'm going underground... 511 00:25:36,869 --> 00:25:41,071 Especially because of me, A kind of admiration of my husband. 512 00:25:41,474 --> 00:25:45,376 - I really am not a wife material. I really don't. 513 00:25:45,378 --> 00:25:48,612 - There is something very theoretical about my life 514 00:25:48,981 --> 00:25:53,250 I want something real, but to be kind of, 515 00:25:53,252 --> 00:25:57,855 really embodies my sexual self, 516 00:25:58,524 --> 00:26:00,324 That happened with Mike. 517 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:04,695 That, you know, it's very... 518 00:26:06,232 --> 00:26:08,065 That's very strong. 519 00:26:08,067 --> 00:26:09,733 - I'm talking about coming Out of the box, and I think 520 00:26:09,735 --> 00:26:13,771 Women realize that sexual satisfaction is their right. 521 00:26:13,773 --> 00:26:17,141 - Mike uses this album, this new album 522 00:26:17,143 --> 00:26:22,046 who just came out, and Both Sides Now start playing. 523 00:26:22,148 --> 00:26:24,915 Whenever I hear it I immediately return to that night, 524 00:26:24,917 --> 00:26:27,585 and rain falls and we run across the bridge, 525 00:26:27,587 --> 00:26:30,554 and that's one of them when when 526 00:26:30,890 --> 00:26:33,123 Your life is sort of down the road 527 00:26:33,125 --> 00:26:34,725 this way, and then all suddenly (air blowing). 528 00:26:34,727 --> 00:26:37,261 - The main police officer I got married. 529 00:26:37,263 --> 00:26:40,564 And I feel embarrassed to get married. 530 00:26:40,833 --> 00:26:43,434 That's how I feel about that. (laugh) 531 00:26:43,436 --> 00:26:45,703 I remember I went home and told my father 532 00:26:45,705 --> 00:26:48,539 "I am very embarrassed to say it." 533 00:26:48,541 --> 00:26:51,308 - I really dated someone from Union College, 534 00:26:51,310 --> 00:26:53,444 but stop when I parents won't let me 535 00:26:53,446 --> 00:26:55,346 down for the weekend 536 00:26:55,348 --> 00:26:58,215 - That's where my life starts to go from the cliff. 537 00:26:58,618 --> 00:27:01,552 You know all the clichés of sex, drugs, and rock and roll. 538 00:27:03,022 --> 00:27:05,255 It becomes real part of my life, 539 00:27:05,858 --> 00:27:10,127 chaos and relationship instability. 540 00:27:11,631 --> 00:27:14,498 - [Voiceover] So it takes a long time time for me to really get, 541 00:27:14,500 --> 00:27:17,101 from my mother, maybe Until I like 55, 542 00:27:17,103 --> 00:27:19,370 that he is actually proud of what I have done 543 00:27:19,372 --> 00:27:22,439 All he will call and say, "So when do you have children? 544 00:27:22,441 --> 00:27:24,141 " So when are you? have children? " 545 00:27:24,143 --> 00:27:26,176 - My mother is the longest run a subscription 546 00:27:26,178 --> 00:27:28,512 to Brides Magazine I thought they had, 547 00:27:28,514 --> 00:27:29,780 ever, ever, ever. 548 00:27:29,782 --> 00:27:31,982 - Yes, I was pregnant when I graduated , 549 00:27:31,984 --> 00:27:34,418 and there are some of us. 550 00:27:34,420 --> 00:27:36,353 - I am and married. 551 00:27:36,355 --> 00:27:39,223 If I am not pregnant, I will not get married 552 00:27:40,159 --> 00:27:44,128 - I have my child maybe Right before I am 43 years old. 553 00:27:44,130 --> 00:27:46,030 - He is the second a bottle of champagne 554 00:27:46,032 --> 00:27:48,899 on my 40th birthday. (laughs) 555 00:27:49,001 --> 00:27:51,769 So you know, everyone says life starts at age 40? 556 00:27:51,771 --> 00:27:54,271 I don't think so will be like that (laugh) 557 00:27:54,273 --> 00:27:56,974 Yes, that's surprising, I'm not necessarily 558 00:27:57,143 --> 00:27:59,109 want children, really. 559 00:27:59,345 --> 00:28:01,812 Many people say that A difficult time when 560 00:28:02,181 --> 00:28:04,848 Your daughter goes Go to college 561 00:28:04,850 --> 00:28:07,351 I am very ready to get it get rid of him (laugh) 562 00:28:07,953 --> 00:28:10,821 Living with teenagers A very smart girl 563 00:28:10,823 --> 00:28:13,057 and also stronger than you... 564 00:28:13,392 --> 00:28:15,626 But I'm angry with him, he used to pick me up 565 00:28:15,628 --> 00:28:18,429 Literally choose me ride from my feet 566 00:28:18,431 --> 00:28:19,630 How, and you know it's like, 567 00:28:19,632 --> 00:28:21,432 "Lower me, put me down !" (Laughs) 568 00:28:21,434 --> 00:28:24,835 - One of my great regrets is not having children. 569 00:28:24,837 --> 00:28:26,937 I have never left have no children, 570 00:28:26,939 --> 00:28:29,973 I always assume I will do it have children, but... 571 00:28:31,610 --> 00:28:34,211 When I come to MIT, that, 572 00:28:34,647 --> 00:28:36,780 I can't even imagine it have children. 573 00:28:36,782 --> 00:28:40,417 - James Baldwin said, "Go the way your blood beats. 574 00:28:40,486 --> 00:28:42,252 " All true love is sacred. " 575 00:28:42,254 --> 00:28:45,255 It is very important I have been for years, = love relationship with someone. 576 00:28:45,991 --> 00:28:47,725 I have never had a strong appeal towards becoming a mother. so annoying in this case... 577 00:28:47,727 --> 00:28:49,960 pathetic old men in Congress and without it 578 00:28:49,962 --> 00:28:53,197 arranging themselves as arbitrators 579 00:28:53,199 --> 00:28:55,899 of what should happen with my womb 580 00:28:57,369 --> 00:29:00,671 - not having children makes me cry 581 00:29:03,976 --> 00:29:08,145 And there are times... 582 00:29:10,416 --> 00:29:14,918 583 00:29:17,656 --> 00:29:20,657 584 00:29:20,659 --> 00:29:23,227 585 00:29:29,902 --> 00:29:32,636 586 00:29:38,844 --> 00:29:42,913 587 00:29:46,152 --> 00:29:50,554 just don't have anyone 588 00:29:50,890 --> 00:29:53,857 to help me but I make me weak. 589 00:29:53,859 --> 00:29:55,826 You will get the flu 590 00:29:55,828 --> 00:29:58,662 and you can feel it coming, 591 00:29:58,664 --> 00:30:01,598 and nothing inside the house, 592 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:05,969 and you must make a trip to the grocery store 593 00:30:05,971 --> 00:30:09,640 to buy what you will get takes the next three days 594 00:30:09,809 --> 00:30:12,309 because there is no division of labor 595 00:30:12,311 --> 00:30:14,678 That makes me cry occasionally. 596 00:30:15,748 --> 00:30:18,348 Stinkin & quart; quart milk. (chuckles) 597 00:30:18,751 --> 00:30:20,417 ("Water is Wide" sung by MaryLeigh Roohan) 598 00:30:20,419 --> 00:30:23,720 ♪ The water is wide 599 00:30:23,722 --> 00:30:25,923 - Yes, honest relationship has happened 600 00:30:25,925 --> 00:30:27,991 My biggest challenge 601 00:30:27,993 --> 00:30:30,160 - The type of man 602 00:30:30,696 --> 00:30:33,030 I find it interesting to change 603 00:30:33,399 --> 00:30:34,798 When I become more political. 604 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,567 - I have a wonderful husband, 605 00:30:36,569 --> 00:30:39,436 and he calls himself Mr. Thatcher. 606 00:30:39,772 --> 00:30:42,039 He claims he likes to carry my bag 607 00:30:43,309 --> 00:30:45,442 - We have been married for 42 years 608 00:30:45,444 --> 00:30:48,712 - I really have it strong feet 609 00:30:48,714 --> 00:30:51,381 in the 1950s mentality, 610 00:30:51,383 --> 00:30:53,717 from your husband will Take care of yourself. 611 00:30:53,719 --> 00:30:56,587 - I remember me mother said (inhaled) 612 00:30:56,655 --> 00:30:59,122 "The man is the head of the relationship 613 00:30:59,124 --> 00:31:01,458 " and the woman is the heart. " 614 00:31:02,027 --> 00:31:05,028 Therefore, don't think. 615 00:31:05,030 --> 00:31:09,099 - I'm not good at expressing my feelings at all 616 00:31:11,136 --> 00:31:13,871 Because I don't want to pedaling a boat 617 00:31:13,873 --> 00:31:15,772 - I mean, see what happens with divorce 618 00:31:16,542 --> 00:31:20,677 I know my friend's parents who will stay with 619 00:31:20,679 --> 00:31:24,681 with no way possible marriage, and stigma 620 00:31:24,683 --> 00:31:28,385 attached to divorce, Well, for politicians... 621 00:31:29,555 --> 00:31:31,488 Ronald Reagan became president and he was divorced. 622 00:31:31,490 --> 00:31:34,091 That will never happen happened in the 50s. 623 00:31:34,093 --> 00:31:37,494 - I can make much better business decisions from me 624 00:31:37,496 --> 00:31:40,731 do with most of what happens in my home life. 625 00:31:40,733 --> 00:31:44,434 - you know, everything divorce has a straw. 626 00:31:44,436 --> 00:31:47,871 - He landed in prison many, many times 627 00:31:47,873 --> 00:31:49,940 His face is beaten. 628 00:31:49,942 --> 00:31:51,909 - My ex-husband bought a boat. 629 00:31:52,678 --> 00:31:54,778 I'm not talking about a boat or cruise ship, 630 00:31:54,780 --> 00:31:56,480 I'm talking about a ship. 631 00:31:56,482 --> 00:31:58,448 - He did try to break into the White House 632 00:31:58,450 --> 00:32:01,084 He is quite politically minded. 633 00:32:01,086 --> 00:32:03,320 - And he bought a ship without telling me 634 00:32:03,322 --> 00:32:06,256 or discuss it with me, or... 635 00:32:06,825 --> 00:32:09,693 And that's at a time that we can barely 636 00:32:09,695 --> 00:32:12,396 pay our bills everyday 637 00:32:12,698 --> 00:32:14,031 - Do you know what? 638 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,234 I love you so much, but I'm better 639 00:32:17,236 --> 00:32:18,902 hit me alone 640 00:32:18,904 --> 00:32:21,238 - Not always a sorry, this is magical, 641 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,107 what would be like if I was married 642 00:32:24,109 --> 00:32:26,343 (Laughter) I don't know. 643 00:32:27,546 --> 00:32:30,814 I think I learned early 644 00:32:30,816 --> 00:32:32,983 with other girlfriends, 645 00:32:33,619 --> 00:32:35,819 I learned not to define myself 646 00:32:35,821 --> 00:32:39,089 based on dependence or the need for men. 647 00:32:39,325 --> 00:32:42,059 - Who am I without a man? 648 00:32:42,294 --> 00:32:45,329 That already, it's already very interesting something to find 649 00:32:46,131 --> 00:32:47,531 - the bond, and that Maybe why he often comes, 650 00:32:47,533 --> 00:32:50,734 is that kind of thing remains in my dream 651 00:32:51,337 --> 00:32:56,306 That is my soul that returns. 652 00:32:57,009 --> 00:33:00,377 Married, some children. 653 00:33:01,146 --> 00:33:03,213 I met him burial . (laugh) 654 00:33:03,682 --> 00:33:06,550 I still hope so I will find someone 655 00:33:07,619 --> 00:33:11,888 656 00:33:11,890 --> 00:33:16,493 it will be more from life partner 657 00:33:30,743 --> 00:33:33,777 But they are mostly musicians, you know 658 00:33:36,482 --> 00:33:38,415 Properties of animals, you know 659 00:33:38,417 --> 00:33:42,686 I think it's me close to guitarist 660 00:33:42,688 --> 00:33:47,424 for a while, and very close to jazz pianists 661 00:33:47,426 --> 00:33:51,528 for a while, and then close to jazz bassist 662 00:33:51,530 --> 00:33:53,730 for a while. (laugh) 663 00:33:58,570 --> 00:34:01,738 Never prepare a household again, even though 664 00:34:05,811 --> 00:34:09,679 ♪ Say high living costs 665 00:34:09,681 --> 00:34:11,982 ♪ Check pricetag on dreams 666 00:34:11,984 --> 00:34:14,284 - Brian, my middle child, 667 00:34:15,788 --> 00:34:17,521 usually ask questions, "Mom, why are you working? 668 00:34:17,523 --> 00:34:21,224 " so hard? " And he is like, 12 or 13 maybe at that time. 669 00:34:22,127 --> 00:34:23,760 This is when I am single, 670 00:34:23,762 --> 00:34:25,562 I haven't married Randy. 671 00:34:25,764 --> 00:34:27,764 I say, "Because of me Don't get fired. " 672 00:34:27,766 --> 00:34:29,166 He said, "No will fire you 673 00:34:29,168 --> 00:34:31,101 He said," You work queen! " 674 00:34:31,970 --> 00:34:34,638 - I mean, I love being a mother, 675 00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:37,808 but there are real big holes in my life 676 00:34:37,810 --> 00:34:39,476 - And if you think about their mother, 677 00:34:39,478 --> 00:34:41,445 who many of them pass from 678 00:34:41,447 --> 00:34:45,115 excellent liberal arts colleges like Skidmore. 679 00:34:45,984 --> 00:34:48,151 The mothers think that they will get a ring 680 00:34:48,153 --> 00:34:51,021 with their spring senior years and then 681 00:34:51,023 --> 00:34:55,292 move to marriage and produce children 682 00:34:55,761 --> 00:34:59,362 like themselves and then continue 683 00:35:00,632 --> 00:35:03,967 produce more children, but don't take jobs 684 00:35:04,369 --> 00:35:07,270 Now we tell women to go out to work 685 00:35:07,272 --> 00:35:09,439 which is actually expected to work. 686 00:35:09,441 --> 00:35:11,608 - But I will never forget walk down the aisle 687 00:35:11,610 --> 00:35:14,578 and hear this music, and say, "Oh my God, 688 00:35:14,580 --> 00:35:17,180 " That is very beautiful. " And it feels like, 689 00:35:17,182 --> 00:35:20,684 it's just a kind of (humming parade music). 690 00:35:22,988 --> 00:35:26,623 It is very beautiful, and that's how it is, 691 00:35:26,692 --> 00:35:29,526 That's how I answer, and... 692 00:35:29,528 --> 00:35:31,661 that never leaves me 693 00:35:31,864 --> 00:35:36,333 It's really deep through my life line 694 00:35:36,602 --> 00:35:39,002 I kind of go from the great 695 00:35:39,004 --> 00:35:41,805 to the silly, but as I say 696 00:35:41,807 --> 00:35:46,376 Do I sing as a telegram singing? 697 00:35:46,712 --> 00:35:49,546 sending people, and I sing in the choir in Met. 698 00:35:50,048 --> 00:35:52,949 So, the noble and the silly 699 00:35:52,951 --> 00:35:54,284 (laugh) 700 00:35:54,686 --> 00:35:56,520 - I only have one brother, 701 00:35:56,855 --> 00:35:59,222 and he development defects. 702 00:35:59,491 --> 00:36:01,491 He lives in home with my parents 703 00:36:01,493 --> 00:36:03,827 I ask my parents, "How are you... 704 00:36:04,163 --> 00:36:06,630 " What about Kathy? " because at that time 705 00:36:06,632 --> 00:36:09,499 my father was almost 70 years old. 706 00:36:09,501 --> 00:36:11,468 This was when I was still silent at college high, and I said, 707 00:36:11,470 --> 00:36:13,036 "What's the plan?" 708 00:36:13,038 --> 00:36:15,338 My father said, "Your plan." 709 00:36:15,607 --> 00:36:17,274 I said, "I'm not the plan." 710 00:36:17,809 --> 00:36:19,709 I am aware, to make Of course I'm not the plan 711 00:36:19,711 --> 00:36:21,278 I really have to put lots of distances 712 00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,880 between me and Manchester. 713 00:36:24,116 --> 00:36:26,983 I just don't want be, this is (muttering), 714 00:36:26,985 --> 00:36:29,219 will sound very good heartless, but I no 715 00:36:29,221 --> 00:36:31,821 wants to be my brother's guard, I really want a life. 716 00:36:32,191 --> 00:36:33,957 I've worked hard to get it. 717 00:36:34,660 --> 00:36:36,459 I don't want to go back, 718 00:36:37,196 --> 00:36:38,695 and so I don't. 719 00:36:39,665 --> 00:36:42,465 - In the summer I have working on 7th Avenue 720 00:36:43,101 --> 00:36:45,502 as a Fitters model, and I remember where, 721 00:36:45,504 --> 00:36:47,571 which basically, they are stuck pins in you all day 722 00:36:47,573 --> 00:36:49,005 and pay you for that , but improve you 723 00:36:49,007 --> 00:36:50,407 If you bleed into the dress. 724 00:36:50,409 --> 00:36:51,808 That's really one of them which is very interesting Experience on 7th Avenue 725 00:36:51,810 --> 00:36:54,611 I paid hourly and all things like that. 726 00:36:55,047 --> 00:36:57,214 I'm really aware that's what I want 727 00:36:57,916 --> 00:37:00,283 to be one sitting behind the table 728 00:37:00,285 --> 00:37:02,953 go, (nasally) "I don't like this. 729 00:37:02,955 --> 00:37:04,421 " He doesn't look good in that. 730 00:37:04,423 --> 00:37:05,722 "It's not funny, I want that one. 731 00:37:05,724 --> 00:37:07,157 " Can you make it blue? " (normal) I want to be one on the other, 732 00:37:07,159 --> 00:37:08,959 business people 733 00:37:08,961 --> 00:37:10,560 734 00:37:10,562 --> 00:37:11,995 735 00:37:11,997 --> 00:37:14,064 - I will always come it's financially 736 00:37:14,066 --> 00:37:16,032 Because I really want it to be responsible 737 00:37:16,034 --> 00:37:18,969 - Victoria & sos; s Secret has all other , when I was there, 738 00:37:19,771 --> 00:37:22,272 You have a whole manual defined 739 00:37:22,274 --> 00:37:26,610 What is sexy in six different bucket sexy. 740 00:37:27,579 --> 00:37:28,945 Believe it or not. 741 00:37:29,448 --> 00:37:30,981 Once you tell people that you are doing a bra, 742 00:37:30,983 --> 00:37:33,183 Let me tell you, you at every cocktail party, 743 00:37:33,185 --> 00:37:35,785 people are hiking their shirts 744 00:37:35,787 --> 00:37:37,520 (laugh) I mean, fair even in my Sunday School 745 00:37:37,522 --> 00:37:39,656 The human teacher is like, "Not here, please," 746 00:37:39,658 --> 00:37:41,191 and I like, "Please." 747 00:37:41,193 --> 00:37:45,262 - I started my career with Three Mile Island program, 748 00:37:45,330 --> 00:37:48,198 and I fly it days to Harrisburg 749 00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:50,867 to meet the day after governor 750 00:37:50,869 --> 00:37:53,403 Three Mile Island, I am the only plane. 751 00:37:53,405 --> 00:37:56,206 (laugh) All others will be the opposite. 752 00:37:58,877 --> 00:38:02,445 - I ran for the mayor Very active in my union 753 00:38:03,048 --> 00:38:05,348 Teacher Unity, and... 754 00:38:06,952 --> 00:38:10,020 During my working years I was still active as a retiree. 755 00:38:10,088 --> 00:38:12,956 - I became Mondale & apos; s Press secretary when he was 756 00:38:13,025 --> 00:38:15,258 Preparing the campaign to walk on & apos; 84. 757 00:38:15,260 --> 00:38:17,327 I am the first woman Press Secretary 758 00:38:17,329 --> 00:38:19,162 to major Presidential campaign, 759 00:38:19,164 --> 00:38:21,097 so there is a broken barrier. 760 00:38:21,099 --> 00:38:24,768 - I mean, I'm the first woman in the men's locker room. 761 00:38:25,570 --> 00:38:29,739 I really do it feminist things, 762 00:38:29,741 --> 00:38:32,842 and that's really, really, really hard 763 00:38:32,844 --> 00:38:36,279 I am part of maybe, the biggest group 764 00:38:36,281 --> 00:38:39,082 Pulitzer has won in the Times, 765 00:38:39,084 --> 00:38:41,318 which is for portrait and sorrow 766 00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:45,989 almost all people who died on 9/11. 767 00:38:46,458 --> 00:38:50,093 - Oh, there are times when I work 60 or 70 hours. 768 00:38:50,729 --> 00:38:53,396 This is my family. 769 00:38:53,398 --> 00:38:55,565 - I'm a workaholic and one of the problems 770 00:38:55,567 --> 00:38:58,668 is it very dangerous interesting. (laugh) 771 00:38:59,004 --> 00:39:01,304 This organism, Prochlorococcus, 772 00:39:01,306 --> 00:39:03,640 It's like opening a every week 773 00:39:03,642 --> 00:39:06,076 My relationship with that wants to understand 774 00:39:06,078 --> 00:39:07,811 how it dominates the ocean. 775 00:39:07,813 --> 00:39:11,614 There are 10,000 of them per teaspoon of sea water. 776 00:39:11,616 --> 00:39:13,149 Nobody knows they are there, 777 00:39:13,151 --> 00:39:14,784 and indeed run the world 778 00:39:14,786 --> 00:39:18,154 This is actually a poster for the party My department must celebrate my acceptance 779 00:39:18,824 --> 00:39:22,025 National Medal of Science. 780 00:39:22,027 --> 00:39:23,860 - Three weeks before the election, we get a poll 781 00:39:24,663 --> 00:39:27,030 782 00:39:27,032 --> 00:39:30,133 which shows very convincingly that will happen 783 00:39:30,135 --> 00:39:32,001 very difficult for Mondale to return 784 00:39:32,003 --> 00:39:34,604 from where he is in a low point, and try 785 00:39:34,606 --> 00:39:37,040 and win the election, so we know he will lose 786 00:39:37,042 --> 00:39:39,342 - I never cry work doesn't matter how bad 787 00:39:39,344 --> 00:39:42,112 I have everything never cry at work 788 00:39:43,014 --> 00:39:45,048 I might have cried home after that 789 00:39:45,050 --> 00:39:47,851 - I will return to my hotel room 790 00:39:47,853 --> 00:39:49,919 every day and cry at 5, 791 00:39:49,921 --> 00:39:52,021 everyone thinks so Funny at that time. 792 00:39:52,023 --> 00:39:54,290 - And one day we are watching something 793 00:39:54,292 --> 00:39:56,860 on television and Robin Morgan appears. 794 00:39:57,229 --> 00:40:01,097 Robin Morgan, of course, is a very passionate feminist 795 00:40:01,466 --> 00:40:04,701 and we see this, and Mike, 796 00:40:04,703 --> 00:40:07,537 my new husband, said, "Oh, everything he said 797 00:40:07,539 --> 00:40:09,939 " made sense to me. " 798 00:40:10,876 --> 00:40:13,510 And I thought," Oh, God. 799 00:40:13,512 --> 00:40:15,779 "We just got married, we will have a baby." 800 00:40:15,781 --> 00:40:18,148 Very funny 801 00:40:18,150 --> 00:40:21,451 like the feminist point from view while I 802 00:40:21,887 --> 00:40:25,922 like saying, "I don't know if I can really 803 00:40:27,259 --> 00:40:28,992 also has a toll, and rightly so. 804 00:40:28,994 --> 00:40:32,762 It has a toll on my spirit, 805 00:40:32,764 --> 00:40:37,367 there is a victim in me sort of self-sense. is Charles in Charge, 806 00:40:38,136 --> 00:40:42,105 I developed and produced Magic School Bus Series, 807 00:40:42,107 --> 00:40:44,641 808 00:40:44,643 --> 00:40:49,179 809 00:40:49,414 --> 00:40:50,814 810 00:40:50,816 --> 00:40:53,349 811 00:40:53,351 --> 00:40:56,453 812 00:40:56,455 --> 00:41:00,557 I have won 12 Emmy, do lots of things from my work in Hollywood, 813 00:41:00,559 --> 00:41:02,459 which is the actual pressure cooker. 814 00:41:02,461 --> 00:41:04,561 I started doing that at a very early age 815 00:41:04,563 --> 00:41:07,664 and I also became a mother at a relatively early age. 816 00:41:07,732 --> 00:41:08,898 - I just don't think I'm the best mother 817 00:41:08,900 --> 00:41:10,133 around the world. 818 00:41:10,135 --> 00:41:11,734 I'm too tired be the best mother 819 00:41:11,736 --> 00:41:13,169 around the world. 820 00:41:13,171 --> 00:41:16,806 - I'm lucky because my husband works freelance, 821 00:41:16,808 --> 00:41:20,210 and he is at home, lucky, poor 822 00:41:20,212 --> 00:41:22,745 because at some point, 823 00:41:23,582 --> 00:41:26,716 I feel a little upset here I am 824 00:41:26,718 --> 00:41:29,052 being a person to go to work every day 825 00:41:30,222 --> 00:41:32,088 and basically bring smoked meat house 826 00:41:32,090 --> 00:41:33,323 Isn't that great? 827 00:41:33,325 --> 00:41:35,658 I am successful women in their 70s, 828 00:41:35,660 --> 00:41:38,995 but I'm worried it's mine the main attachment of children 829 00:41:38,997 --> 00:41:41,564 is for my husband, who really takes 830 00:41:41,566 --> 00:41:45,001 traditional roles parents who live at home, 831 00:41:45,003 --> 00:41:48,338 and I bravely march into the workforce 832 00:41:48,340 --> 00:41:51,074 go home with fatigue all the time, 833 00:41:51,076 --> 00:41:54,110 and have that feeling 834 00:41:54,613 --> 00:41:56,813 I somehow failed in my job 835 00:41:56,815 --> 00:41:58,615 because I'm not there as it should, 836 00:41:58,617 --> 00:42:01,784 and I failed home because I'm not with my children 837 00:42:01,786 --> 00:42:04,487 - Schools don't have a kindergarten all day, 838 00:42:04,489 --> 00:42:06,756 so it really becomes a choice for me 839 00:42:06,758 --> 00:42:09,125 where I can drop children in the morning 840 00:42:09,127 --> 00:42:10,927 and pick them up at night. 841 00:42:11,263 --> 00:42:13,997 I remember both 842 00:42:13,999 --> 00:42:16,332 standing behind this fence, 843 00:42:16,334 --> 00:42:19,736 crying like I leave, it's just, 844 00:42:20,071 --> 00:42:22,539 it's very devastating Really terrible 845 00:42:23,375 --> 00:42:24,908 Terrible, terrible 846 00:42:24,910 --> 00:42:28,111 - Women must work twice as hard, 847 00:42:28,113 --> 00:42:31,381 and this has been documented with a double blind study 848 00:42:31,383 --> 00:42:35,151 from resumes and publications, and you know, 849 00:42:35,153 --> 00:42:38,087 fellowship grants, that women must be, 850 00:42:38,723 --> 00:42:41,591 half again good for getting the same results 851 00:42:41,593 --> 00:42:44,027 - Assertiveness in women are aggression 852 00:42:44,563 --> 00:42:47,664 It's okay for guys, but It's okay for women. 853 00:42:47,666 --> 00:42:49,532 - And he asked me questions and that happened 854 00:42:49,534 --> 00:42:52,769 night news, I will love to try to find this snippet. 855 00:42:52,771 --> 00:42:54,737 And he asked me, 856 00:42:55,807 --> 00:42:57,607 "Why are you?" Right? 857 00:42:58,643 --> 00:43:00,910 I'm still young, "You've been for years, 858 00:43:00,912 --> 00:43:04,247 and "why does he have it? choose you for this job?" 859 00:43:04,516 --> 00:43:08,117 And I said, "Will you ask? question about a man?" 860 00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,487 And I thought I was caught they were off guard 861 00:43:11,489 --> 00:43:13,389 - They are all men except me 862 00:43:14,359 --> 00:43:18,361 And we are at 7 breakfast meeting 863 00:43:19,331 --> 00:43:23,366 once a week and I remember, 864 00:43:23,368 --> 00:43:25,935 It's like a stopwatch makes everyone ready, 865 00:43:25,937 --> 00:43:28,738 resigns to child care, et cetera, and so on. 866 00:43:28,740 --> 00:43:31,608 So I went in to get Danny and he has made it 867 00:43:31,610 --> 00:43:33,743 just big, big mess on his bed 868 00:43:33,745 --> 00:43:35,612 I have to give him a bath. 869 00:43:35,614 --> 00:43:38,181 I see me look, it's 6:45 a.m., 870 00:43:38,183 --> 00:43:39,616 told myself then, 871 00:43:39,618 --> 00:43:40,950 "There is no one member of the of the Executive Committee 872 00:43:40,952 --> 00:43:42,585 " Do this this morning, that is certain! " 873 00:43:43,088 --> 00:43:45,088 I remember being a little annoyed 874 00:43:45,090 --> 00:43:47,991 that there is no opportunity for me even 875 00:43:47,993 --> 00:43:52,195 Inhale because they run it like a men's club. 876 00:43:52,197 --> 00:43:54,764 - I mean, I become part of the movement, 877 00:43:54,766 --> 00:43:57,467 and I don't think that just that coincidence 878 00:43:58,536 --> 00:44:00,870 about my time got a term at MIT 879 00:44:01,172 --> 00:44:03,473 Then I became very involved 880 00:44:03,842 --> 00:44:06,075 promote the cause women in science 881 00:44:06,077 --> 00:44:08,411 - Look, I, in the business world too, 882 00:44:08,413 --> 00:44:11,214 see the generation of women who think they have to 883 00:44:11,216 --> 00:44:15,218 like a boy for success, and I never felt it. 884 00:44:15,620 --> 00:44:18,321 And I think Skidmore is why. (laugh) 885 00:44:18,323 --> 00:44:20,623 I think I'm comfortable being me, 886 00:44:20,625 --> 00:44:22,191 as a woman! 887 00:44:22,193 --> 00:44:24,994 I have never tried be a human (laugh) 888 00:44:24,996 --> 00:44:26,295 I want to be with a boy, 889 00:44:26,297 --> 00:44:28,464 but I don't want be one of the boys. 890 00:44:28,967 --> 00:44:31,634 - There is always this feeling that you enter a room 891 00:44:31,636 --> 00:44:34,737 If you are a woman, and does not have a degree from MIT, 892 00:44:34,739 --> 00:44:38,307 that you are considered stupid until you prove otherwise. 893 00:44:39,444 --> 00:44:41,577 Not stupid, but less than. 894 00:44:42,947 --> 00:44:45,214 And I think so 895 00:44:46,351 --> 00:44:48,484 continuous type fueled 896 00:44:49,821 --> 00:44:51,654 feeling, "I will show it to them." 897 00:44:51,656 --> 00:44:53,523 I call it "rebellion," if all 898 00:44:53,525 --> 00:44:55,124 senior women gather. 899 00:44:55,126 --> 00:44:57,026 I have a button that says, 900 00:44:57,028 --> 00:44:59,529 "Women Who Have Good Functions Don't Make History." 901 00:44:59,531 --> 00:45:01,230 - Yeah, the glass the sky is there, 902 00:45:01,232 --> 00:45:04,634 it's not outright talking about. 903 00:45:05,270 --> 00:45:06,803 Women can be vice presidents, 904 00:45:06,805 --> 00:45:08,871 But you won't become CEO. 905 00:45:09,174 --> 00:45:10,740 - You must not behave properly 906 00:45:10,742 --> 00:45:12,975 if you will make history 907 00:45:12,977 --> 00:45:17,080 ♪ The water is wide 908 00:45:19,484 --> 00:45:21,451 - [Voiceover] After I am dead, I hope people 909 00:45:21,453 --> 00:45:23,486 My Google. (laugh) 910 00:45:23,488 --> 00:45:25,855 - Wow, when I sit I become 911 00:45:25,857 --> 00:45:28,925 much more proud than myself (laugh) 912 00:45:29,694 --> 00:45:32,829 because that's the case The fact is, a legacy. 913 00:45:34,899 --> 00:45:37,166 It's easier, the world is easier 914 00:45:37,168 --> 00:45:39,068 place for my daughter 915 00:45:39,270 --> 00:45:43,239 - Many times during my career, I've become the first woman 916 00:45:43,241 --> 00:45:46,042 to get this or the first woman to get it, 917 00:45:46,945 --> 00:45:49,345 and I always tell jokes 918 00:45:49,347 --> 00:45:52,248 that I want to be the second woman 919 00:45:52,250 --> 00:45:55,017 to get anything (laughter) 920 00:45:57,088 --> 00:45:58,521 or fifth. 921 00:45:58,523 --> 00:46:02,225 - They want to celebrate it You become the first black 922 00:46:02,227 --> 00:46:06,095 do something, or whatever first minority . 923 00:46:06,264 --> 00:46:10,299 For me the story that you got this 924 00:46:10,301 --> 00:46:14,003 privilege, you're talking about being special, 925 00:46:14,672 --> 00:46:17,907 that you are not like other people 926 00:46:18,443 --> 00:46:20,877 And my reaction is, "Oh, but that's how it is 927 00:46:20,879 --> 00:46:23,346 " like everyone else. " (laughs) 928 00:46:23,648 --> 00:46:26,749 There are many people who work hard 929 00:46:26,751 --> 00:46:29,418 who should be in front of me, 930 00:46:29,420 --> 00:46:32,288 but they are sort of put down and sacrificed - " 931 00:46:32,791 --> 00:46:36,159 Well, they don't do it say" Good "initially, 932 00:46:36,594 --> 00:46:39,195 Like," Do you want to be a lawyer lyin? "(laughs) 933 00:46:39,197 --> 00:46:41,831 That belongs to my mother exact words 934 00:46:41,833 --> 00:46:43,432 935 00:46:43,434 --> 00:46:46,469 936 00:46:47,972 --> 00:46:50,206 937 00:46:50,208 --> 00:46:52,141 But after that, they say, "Okay, 938 00:46:52,143 --> 00:46:55,144 " go talk to those who can't speak alone. " 939 00:46:55,146 --> 00:46:58,881 - When she is talking about, she and her husband 940 00:46:58,883 --> 00:47:01,551 marriage and they first meet with rabbi, 941 00:47:01,553 --> 00:47:05,154 and she talks about how, she thinks it might be fun 942 00:47:05,156 --> 00:47:07,957 if she walks around he is seven times 943 00:47:08,660 --> 00:47:12,161 I say, "And then he will go Walk around you seven times," 944 00:47:12,463 --> 00:47:15,131 and he goes, "No, I'm fair Will walk nearby. " 945 00:47:16,134 --> 00:47:19,468 Something inside me snaps and I lose it, 946 00:47:19,470 --> 00:47:23,005 and I am very does not suit him, 947 00:47:23,007 --> 00:47:26,209 and says it will happen is above my body 948 00:47:26,845 --> 00:47:29,645 If I choose to submit, 949 00:47:29,647 --> 00:47:33,716 = = if I choose to play 950 00:47:34,352 --> 00:47:36,185 in my house it's my choice, 951 00:47:36,187 --> 00:47:39,622 but no one knows my what is my role 952 00:47:39,858 --> 00:47:42,358 I don't want anyone to tell him, 953 00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:44,627 or at least make a demonstration 954 00:47:44,629 --> 00:47:47,430 of what his future role is Maybe in his marriage. 955 00:47:49,167 --> 00:47:51,033 She doesn't walk around her husband 956 00:47:51,035 --> 00:47:52,935 seven times at a wedding 957 00:47:53,638 --> 00:47:56,472 - Women's Movement affects me in terms of 958 00:47:56,474 --> 00:47:59,575 raising my child appreciating women, 959 00:48:00,078 --> 00:48:04,513 and to respect their role and to try and understand it. 960 00:48:04,515 --> 00:48:07,783 We encourage many generation of stronger women 961 00:48:07,785 --> 00:48:10,820 come behind us from before, 962 00:48:10,822 --> 00:48:14,590 and also maybe one human generation 963 00:48:14,592 --> 00:48:16,225 who is a little a little more in tune 964 00:48:16,227 --> 00:48:19,128 for women's issues and women's rights. 965 00:48:19,130 --> 00:48:22,531 - Unboxed ideas, I hope for everyone. 966 00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,066 I look forward to it my own daughter, 967 00:48:24,068 --> 00:48:26,969 who I will say, is in the hipster box 968 00:48:27,305 --> 00:48:30,273 You know, exit from the box, and... 969 00:48:31,843 --> 00:48:33,876 just look at what's out there 970 00:48:35,647 --> 00:48:38,514 - Actually, I always say to me students, "Follow your heart. take it for granted, 971 00:48:39,617 --> 00:48:41,083 but they might have to fight back some of these same battles. I am very proud of 972 00:48:41,419 --> 00:48:45,021 in that class and of his generation. 973 00:48:45,957 --> 00:48:49,258 - I think my child is my inheritance. 974 00:48:49,260 --> 00:48:52,361 My child is fearless. 975 00:48:52,630 --> 00:48:54,030 976 00:48:54,032 --> 00:48:57,767 977 00:48:57,769 --> 00:48:59,335 978 00:48:59,337 --> 00:49:01,704 979 00:49:02,373 --> 00:49:05,574 980 00:49:05,576 --> 00:49:07,810 981 00:49:10,248 --> 00:49:11,881 982 00:49:11,883 --> 00:49:14,750 I will never be called fearless 983 00:49:15,186 --> 00:49:17,453 when I became her age, when I was 23 years old. 984 00:49:17,455 --> 00:49:19,889 That's not something someone will ever say 985 00:49:19,891 --> 00:49:23,659 for us when we are that age is fearless. 986 00:49:24,062 --> 00:49:27,430 Because I don't think so something we know how to be. 987 00:49:28,266 --> 00:49:29,799 At least I don't. 988 00:49:30,168 --> 00:49:33,035 - Yes, I think so this on both sides now 989 00:49:33,104 --> 00:49:36,472 sort of saying that, and maybe that's how it is 990 00:49:37,675 --> 00:49:41,477 I have lived my life, more with questions. 991 00:49:42,313 --> 00:49:43,913 I know I have more questions always 992 00:49:43,915 --> 00:49:46,015 than I have an answer, and I find 993 00:49:46,017 --> 00:49:49,819 that the older I am, the more I feel I know. 994 00:49:50,488 --> 00:49:52,021 - You can't have it all 995 00:49:52,023 --> 00:49:55,358 You have a choice to make, trade-off, 996 00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:58,160 and everyone finds their own balance 997 00:50:00,031 --> 00:50:02,331 - I Googled and I found it, 998 00:50:03,034 --> 00:50:04,767 so I decided to call him. 999 00:50:05,069 --> 00:50:06,669 This man answered, 1000 00:50:07,071 --> 00:50:08,838 I gave him my name, he said "Oh! 1001 00:50:09,240 --> 00:50:12,408 " Your portrait depends in our living room 1002 00:50:13,044 --> 00:50:14,443 "above the fireplace." 1003 00:50:14,445 --> 00:50:16,112 He came to the phone 1004 00:50:16,714 --> 00:50:19,548 and he is in the process of divorce. 1005 00:50:22,820 --> 00:50:25,921 I made a terrible mistake, I said, 1006 00:50:26,557 --> 00:50:29,859 "Are you still that beautiful? Have you been at Skidmore?" 1007 00:50:29,861 --> 00:50:32,128 That's something that You should never, 1008 00:50:32,130 --> 00:50:34,697 once said, but I say it 1009 00:50:35,933 --> 00:50:38,601 In retrospect I think about that and I say, 1010 00:50:38,603 --> 00:50:42,038 "What is my donkey Make comments like that." 1011 00:50:42,740 --> 00:50:45,941 But he is very mature about that, 1012 00:50:46,644 --> 00:50:49,345 and he put it in a very... 1013 00:50:50,481 --> 00:50:52,048 spiritual level. 1014 00:50:52,650 --> 00:50:57,153 He said, "I am very beautiful inside." 1015 00:50:59,457 --> 00:51:02,124 - hopefully someone wants to say, 1016 00:51:03,327 --> 00:51:06,729 "Good child, good friend, 1017 00:51:06,731 --> 00:51:08,664 " good wife, good mother. " I don't think I say good lawyer (laughs) 1018 00:51:11,669 --> 00:51:14,603 I don't think I want it to be in my tomb 1019 00:51:15,139 --> 00:51:18,507 - My tombstone on my tombstone, 1020 00:51:18,609 --> 00:51:21,177 "No longer looking for it a better position. " 1021 00:51:21,179 --> 00:51:23,979 ♪ I'll go hard 1022 00:51:24,582 --> 00:51:28,184 - [Voiceover] Aging is about, it's about 1023 00:51:28,753 --> 00:51:30,886 releasing a lot. 1024 00:51:30,888 --> 00:51:32,288 - Just turned the day before yesterday. 1025 00:51:32,290 --> 00:51:35,191 - Way ahead, there is a point that disappears, 1026 00:51:35,593 --> 00:51:39,595 (laugh) and we will disappear at some point. 1027 00:51:40,832 --> 00:51:44,400 I think of death a lot, I have to say 1028 00:51:46,571 --> 00:51:48,871 This is not something I... 1029 00:51:48,873 --> 00:51:50,973 1030 00:51:53,811 --> 00:51:56,312 But no, it's not , I'm not-- 1031 00:51:56,314 --> 00:51:57,746 When my mother died, I was with her. 1032 00:51:57,748 --> 00:51:59,715 I hugged him when he died, 1033 00:51:59,717 --> 00:52:03,752 and that is actually very peaceful, 1034 00:52:03,754 --> 00:52:05,788 and it's very sweet. 1035 00:52:05,790 --> 00:52:09,525 - The question is no longer is "what I want" 1036 00:52:11,129 --> 00:52:15,931 but what is my role in reflecting god? 1037 00:52:16,367 --> 00:52:18,300 - I touch God every day 1038 00:52:19,103 --> 00:52:20,803 God is in my child. 1039 00:52:21,272 --> 00:52:25,141 - I think I still have a lot of unfulfilled potential 1040 00:52:26,711 --> 00:52:28,344 And... 1041 00:52:29,413 --> 00:52:32,148 Not finished yet. (laugh) 1042 00:52:33,518 --> 00:52:34,917 - I want to feel useful 1043 00:52:34,919 --> 00:52:38,621 I want to feel like me, I still have a voice. 1044 00:52:39,190 --> 00:52:41,991 - We have renewed ourselves and may be recreated 1045 00:52:41,993 --> 00:52:45,794 ourselves so much times along the way. 1046 00:52:45,796 --> 00:52:49,365 - I want to learn, maybe, 1047 00:52:49,367 --> 00:52:52,368 would you like to believe, Latin and Hebrew. 1048 00:52:52,970 --> 00:52:55,204 - I really want to do gears 1049 00:52:56,841 --> 00:52:59,208 I tried it recently. The result is... 1050 00:52:59,210 --> 00:53:02,811 (laugh) we have to say, a little disappointing 1051 00:53:02,813 --> 00:53:04,780 - A friend of mine says only about increasing age 1052 00:53:04,782 --> 00:53:07,449 is that you see different from others. 1053 00:53:08,519 --> 00:53:12,121 I feel the same thing in it that I always do, 1054 00:53:12,123 --> 00:53:13,489 maybe even better 1055 00:53:13,491 --> 00:53:16,525 - Moments of true joy and 1056 00:53:18,196 --> 00:53:20,763 satisfaction in my life 1057 00:53:21,599 --> 00:53:24,333 I have a piano and I have my cat, 1058 00:53:24,335 --> 00:53:26,202 and I got a good job. 1059 00:53:26,204 --> 00:53:30,039 - I mean, sometimes I am amazed that we are all 65 years old and, where did those years come from? 1060 00:53:30,041 --> 00:53:32,408 This is enough travel. 1061 00:53:33,811 --> 00:53:35,878 - I feel much more that I understand 1062 00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:38,781 what is the word "freedom" Means now, from that. 1063 00:53:38,783 --> 00:53:42,218 1064 00:53:46,057 --> 00:53:50,559 In some ways, I think maybe I really lived in the 60s. 1065 00:53:50,561 --> 00:53:53,996 Not only me in me 60s, but I live 1066 00:53:53,998 --> 00:53:58,867 enthusiasm from 60s doesn't feel... 1067 00:54:00,805 --> 00:54:04,673 bound by conventions as much as 1068 00:54:04,675 --> 00:54:07,676 with my own heart, and freedom 1069 00:54:07,678 --> 00:54:10,045 is the 60s. 1070 00:54:12,216 --> 00:54:14,116 I think I finally got it. 1071 00:54:14,118 --> 00:54:16,685 ("Blurred") 1072 00:54:17,955 --> 00:54:20,089 ♪ Fading 1073 00:54:21,392 --> 00:54:25,027 ♪ They say I fade 1074 00:54:26,397 --> 00:54:28,063 - This is my family ♪ Look better my life and forgive me 1075 00:54:28,566 --> 00:54:32,901 ♪ Graying 1076 00:54:35,640 --> 00:54:37,973 ♪ Just because I'm gray 1077 00:54:38,809 --> 00:54:42,778 ♪ Don't mean this fire is dying 1078 00:54:43,281 --> 00:54:46,649 ♪ Shine & apos; until the last second 1079 00:54:46,651 --> 00:54:48,917 - Well-behaved women don't make history 1080 00:54:48,919 --> 00:54:51,553 ♪ Because I started dancing 1081 00:54:54,458 --> 00:54:56,659 ♪ As I learn to walk 1082 00:54:56,661 --> 00:54:59,028 1083 00:54:59,030 --> 00:55:03,699 ♪ Become a fighter and never stop 1084 00:55:03,701 --> 00:55:05,234 ♪ I reject 1085 00:55:05,236 --> 00:55:08,170 - And all this is middle about women and their roles, 1086 00:55:08,172 --> 00:55:11,774 and you have to do it keep breaking through it 1087 00:55:12,143 --> 00:55:13,409 - Don't tell me to calm down. 1088 00:55:13,411 --> 00:55:15,778 - (laughs) I a virgin who has just recovered 1089 00:55:15,780 --> 00:55:18,847 - This muscle is (laughs) underneath... 1090 00:55:18,916 --> 00:55:20,783 - She doesn't walk around her husband 1091 00:55:20,785 --> 00:55:22,751 seven times at a wedding 1092 00:55:22,987 --> 00:55:24,186 - I want to be with a boy, 1093 00:55:24,188 --> 00:55:26,155 but I don't want be one of the boys. 1094 00:55:26,223 --> 00:55:28,724 - Still their pricetags are on, and I know that 1095 00:55:28,726 --> 00:55:31,560 that I'm in (laughs) A brave new world. 1096 00:55:33,931 --> 00:55:35,531 - [Voiceover] I ran for the mayor. 1097 00:55:35,533 --> 00:55:37,099 - You are the job queen. 1098 00:55:37,101 --> 00:55:39,535 - I really want to do gears 1099 00:55:40,504 --> 00:55:43,238 - Other types, wham! 1100 00:55:43,240 --> 00:55:47,710 ♪ Because I started dancing when I learned to walk 1101 00:55:47,712 --> 00:55:50,279 ♪ Become a fighter 1102 00:55:50,281 --> 00:55:52,414 - get out of that box 1103 00:55:53,651 --> 00:55:56,218 - I am unboxing myself, I think, in some ways. 1104 00:55:56,220 --> 00:55:57,953 - You look different for others 1105 00:55:57,955 --> 00:56:00,456 ♪ I will go with a bang ♪ 1106 00:56:00,458 --> 00:56:02,191 - What kind of problem can they have it? 1107 00:56:05,129 --> 00:56:07,896 - I think maybe that only won't happen for me 1108 00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:12,901 I will, however, not... 1109 00:56:13,838 --> 00:56:16,138 If I meet someone while I walk back 1110 00:56:16,140 --> 00:56:19,475 to my car this afternoon, Upper West Side 1111 00:56:19,477 --> 00:56:21,343 always be very (laugh) 1112 00:56:21,345 --> 00:56:24,446 a successful place for me to meet men 1113 00:56:26,050 --> 00:56:29,318 I, you know, I will do it explore a relationship 1114 00:56:29,553 --> 00:56:30,652 Surely. 1115 00:56:30,654 --> 00:56:34,089 ♪ Oh black bird I hear you singing 1116 00:56:37,962 --> 00:56:42,364 ♪ You have been repaired Your wings are broken 1117 00:56:44,201 --> 00:56:48,170 ♪ But I heard people say 1118 00:56:48,572 --> 00:56:52,441 ♪ That you can't fly with 1119 00:56:55,679 --> 00:57:00,416 ♪ Say your wings old now, they are gray 1120 00:57:04,455 --> 00:57:08,724 ♪ Oh black bird, I heard them say 1121 00:57:12,363 --> 00:57:16,865 ♪ It's time for you the wings to go 1122 00:57:18,969 --> 00:57:22,738 ♪ You are not graceful now 1123 00:57:22,740 --> 00:57:26,608 ♪ You just hang around 1124 00:57:27,945 --> 00:57:32,781 ♪ It's better to retire to the ground 1125 00:57:34,919 --> 00:57:39,855 ♪ Oh my blackbird knows it's not true 1126 00:57:43,127 --> 00:57:47,996 ♪ The fire is still burning bright in you 1127 00:57:51,035 --> 00:57:54,670 ♪ Oh black bird, you tell me 1128 00:57:54,672 --> 00:57:58,841 ♪ You have lots of things to do 1129 00:58:02,880 --> 00:58:06,849 Submitted by: www.subtitlecinema.com